[losttillfound]

Last night I had put the towels away in the airing cupboard because my mum told me to. I folded them. This morning she woke me up by screaming at me (and siblings) (because they @eren't folded.. ) got up right away. She said how I never pull my weight around and how I'm selfish and don't think of others. My room is a tip I'll grant that. She said she hates for it, and she felt like coming in and slapping me. I carried on tidying crying. Later before she was going out. She said she expected the house to be imaculate then called me down.
I didn't come down the first few times she called me. Her voice got threatening. I went downstairs and she said she loved me and tried to give me a hug and kiss, I pulled away. She hasn't ever hit me but I felt like she was about to. This is personaly the worst part or mee. She called upstairs and said she loved us, especially me! Why 'especially me'? I'm still crying and my siblings don't even care, please help. What should I do?

I'm 12 by the way, last time she did something like this I. took it out on my dad, his girlfriend and my little half sister. I feel like running away or telling my nan. My big sister won't let. Me though. Last time she called me a selfish g*t. I hate it. She never does anythinh around the house and expects us three to wait on her. I'm tired of it.

I feel like starving myself too. So far so good.

[joypulv]

Hi lost, I went through similar situations (50 years ago!) with a mother who was screaming one minute and trying to make up the next. Not too much making up though, and she didn't hug me, she made me go through a ritual apology and hug her. I never was hugged growing up unless it was part of saying I'm sorry. What can you do? Not much, except don't take it out on those you do appreciate. You need them!
Also, although this might be tough to understand, your mother is trying to raise all of you without your father, who has a new woman in his life. Try to imagine how that feels. She's hurt, she's angry, she's taking some of it out on you. Granted she might expect a lot in the way of things that don't matter to you, like neatness. But it's her home, and when you have your own you can be as messy as you want. Do the chores she expects, stay away from both her and your big sister as much as possible the rest of the time, and maybe read a lot or go for walks. Soon you will be old enough for a part time job. You could babysit even now. A little spending money plus a way to stay away from fights.

[losttillfound]

Thanks. That's great help. But she also is in a long term relationship. When ever I sit and read she yells at me for not doing anything. I have great grades though and love reading! I wish I had someone to talk to. My frienda aren't the type of people who care. They don't even invite me out places so yeah. No friends. Horrid mother

[joypulv]

Friends do care, by definition (meaning they aren't friends if they don't care). But they probably have their problems too. It's important to give as well as take, to listen to them as well as unloading on them. For every 5 minutes complaining about your mother, ask them what's going on with them and be sympathetic.
As for mum's relationship, where is he? Living with you? Any sign of anything wrong, like not marrying her if she wants it? Does he have kids somewhere and spend time away? Is she worse when he's away? Look for little clues that might explain why she is mean for no reason. When you are 12, mothers are still mothers and not people, I know, I remember. But try to find out. Maybe even ask her gently sometime - Mum, are you happy the way your life is right now? If you could do it all over, what would it be like?

[losttillfound]

He is always around, he doesn't live with us but he sleeps here a lot. He just got divorced to another woman and the woman keeps asking him for things like money. He has two kids he doesn't see a lot. That might be the source, she does get agrivated a bit.
I have spoke to my friend and. It turns out she does care! Thank you so much for your help :)