[afsarali]

I am in a relationship with a girl from last 2 years. Her parents were against us so she left everything for me and had gone to Mumbai. Earlier she was working in Delhi and In Mumbai. She didn’t find any job and I paid all her expenses for 6 months . Now 1 month back she came to Dehradun as she got job in Dehradun. My family is ready for marriage and soon we will get married and she also takes interest in it.

She talk to me every day night in Dehradun also, but some time I feel that she is hiding something. In her office there is guy, who purposed her on day 3 of joining. Although she rejected and told him about our relationship, 5 days back she was talking to him at night at 11 o’clock for 1 hr and it happened two times. I came to know just because of her call details. I asked her but she told me that they were discussing something about their office as that guy is in her team and she loves me a lot.

I clearly told her that if she don’t want continue tell me, I will not ask any question to her but she told ”trust me that I only love you and can’t live without you“.

In her call details I found some other numbers on which she messaged/call in night at 12 or early in the morning at 6/7 (1 or 2 sms or 1/2 min calls).
I can not discuss everything with her else she will feel that I am restricting her and may be I am wrong, I am thinking wrong about her after all she left everything for me then how can I say this to her that she is not faithful.

Actually I love her a lot and trust her and can’t lose her. I don’t want that someone stolen her from me. Suggest me what should I do. I don’t want to lose her.

[talaniman]

If you trusted her, you wouldn't be snooping. So stop. Let this go bud, because really its none of your business what she texts, calls, talks to, or when, or who. What are you supposed to be the only thing in her life. You didn't restrict her before, don't do it now.

Never act out of fear or he negative thoughts you have. And stop looking at this as a threat, or a loss. Just keep working on the positive. In other words, control your thoughts and actions and don't be a snoopy fraidy cat.