[NegaSlasher]

I love eating spaghetti, which she made for me today but I didn't feel like eating as much as I normally do still. I just can't seem to make myself eat. :(

I'm trying to make it seem as it's getting better, which it kind of has in the past day or two, but not nearly at the rate it should be getting better.

[Wondergirl]

I'm trying to make it seem as it's getting better, which it kind of has in the past day or two, but not nearly at the rate it should be getting better.

Time. It takes time. There is no "rate" that is correct or optimal.

Do you eat with the family? If so, talk with them. We used to play "I see something on this table that begins with --" and began with any letter. The winner does the same letter or a different one. My dad's turn one time made us guess for the letter C, and it turned out to be "condensation" on our iced tea glasses -- very tricky. Doing this will sharpen your mind and give you something else to think about while you shovel food into your mouth.

[NegaSlasher]

I try, I try indeed.

Talking about it on these forums has really helped and I'm feeling somewhat better thanks to you and I thank you for that. Talking to friends about it has helped as well. But when I'm alone and have no one to talk to about it is when it kicks in.

[Wondergirl]

But when I'm alone and have no one to talk to about it is when it kicks in.

Okay. We need a strategy for those times. Let me think about that.

[talaniman]

I have always found it helpful to have a chore or hobby, or activity for those alone times and you need to vent, or rant. Mostly its boredom that triggers those thought when we are alone, and not being use to being alone in the first place.

Plan your day better, and you will not only have things to do, but find things you enjoy doing.

[NegaSlasher]

Yeah, that's what I'm trying to do. Trying to occupy myself with something always, but still kicks in sometimes.

I don't know if I should be doing this, but when I think that I will get her back somehow eventually and try to plan how, it makes me feel better. However, it's not the only thing I'll revolve my life around anymore. It's just going to be something I do while living my life. If it works out, great, if not, by then I'll have other things to focus on.

[mecheK]

I love girls but you got to be independent some times girls don't care or love the control they have over you or love the attention

Take this from a girl... it all depends on how serious she is

[Woadereboi]

I'm going through the same thing bro and desperately want her back, because I know the break up was my fault. I am away at school so I can't even see her until I go back in a month, so I am hoping that this month long NC thing will help her come back in my life. I know it is a period where I try to move on and forget, but I just can't, and I want her back. Best of luck to you!