[sparks123]

I've been with my boyfriend for two years. In the first few months we were dating, I told him I might still have feelings for my ex and I wanted to break up until I had time to figure things out. I hung around my ex for one night, and kissed, but in the end we both realized there was nothing there. My boyfriend told me he didn't want to know what happened between me and my ex, so I never told him. A few months later, a friend told my boyfriend about me and my ex kissing when we broke up. My boyfriend got mad for not telling him and forbade me from talking to my ex or even looking at him, even though he was the one who said he didn't want to know if anything happened. Point is, I do everything in my power to make him happy, and he even doesn't want me to go out with my friends because my ex might be there. My ex was a friend long before I was with my boyfriend, so should I let my boyfriend forbid me from talking to him?

Stuck between two guys.

The title states it clearly. I'm stuck between two guys. I've been friends with benefits with one guy, then I got with another guy (for 2 years). Recently I've started talking to the FWB guy, and he seems totally different now. Before, he often led me on and acted like a friend one minute and then acted like he hated me the next. The guy that I am currently with was perfect before. He was sweet, caring, made me laugh, we never fought, and he truly loves me. Here is a little info on how they both are now.

Boyfriend
- acts sweet. Really loves me and cares for me
- makes me smile
- doesn't want me hanging around ex's (or basically any guy), and won't even let me go out with my friends on the weekend
- gets cranky easily.
FWB Guy
- says he let me go for my own happiness
- acts really sweet, and says he is there for me
- doesn't think I should be with my controlling boyfriend, but doesn't force me to break up with him
- told me that if my boyfriend wasn't in the picture, he would want to try being with me again

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and I do love him, but I want to explore my options because I am still young. The FWB guy has always been my care-free, exciting friend. But my boyfriend is the guy I can be my true self around, although our relationship is much more intense and serious. Help?

[talaniman]

I think you are being very dishonest with your boyfriend since you are looking for romance with the ex. Not only is this dishonest, but disrespectful since you are actually considering making a romantic change. He shouldn't have to forbid you, you should forbid yourself until you actually leave the boyfriend, or decide to stay, then you stay away from the ex.

Why he hasn't let you go is amazing, and very STUPID of him. I would not forbid you anything, but would tell you see you! Hate to be you!

THE END!!

Be honest! You want to explore other options, break up with the boyfriend. Its cheating to mess with another guy when you have one already. You sound like you are making sure of another feathered nest before you decide for YOURSELF.

This confusion on your part does not condone, or justify cheating though, so just be honest, with your so called boyfriend, and YOURSELF!

[Fr_Chuck]

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First things should be discussed, and honesty needs to be in a relationship.
He has a reason not to want you to be cheating on him and he deserves much better.

You should break it off with both and work on buiding a real relationship.

[emily1234098]

You need to talk it out with your boyfriend

[sparks123]

So, I was friends with benefits with this guy for a little while, but he wanted to keep it a secret from others, and he was often leading me on. For instance, one minute he would be all flirty and nice to me, then the next, he would ignore me.
We ended our fling, and I got a boyfriend. A few months into the relationship, I told him that I wanted to take a break because I think I might still have feelings for the FWB guy. So, we took a break, and I hooked up with the FWB guy for a couple nights, just to see if there was actually true feelings there. Basically, the guy told me that there was no sparks and I should forget about him.
I got back with my boyfriend and stopped talking to the other guy. About a year later, the FWB guy started talking to me again. He told me that there was actually sparks between us a long time ago, but he let me go because he knew I would be happier with my boyfriend. He told me that he regrets not telling me sooner, and he said that if there was ever a chance between us, he wouldn't be as stupid as he was before, and he would take the chance. He flirts with me a lot, and it sounds like he's totally changed and wants to be with me. But I still can't understand what he wants. Help?

[talaniman]

Hey look why are you even being distracted by this ex and listening to him as this BS contact is undermining your relationship, and no matter how many questions about the same love triangle you make the answer is still the same, let go of the blast from the past, and focus on what you have. Or dump the guy and go back to being a secret lover of the ex.

Stop tripping over words and attention, its making you a cheater. YES that's right, your heart is leading you down a bad path.