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    xxpolxx Posts: 9, Reputation: 2
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    Mar 22, 2012, 08:42 PM
    Confused with two lovers
    The tittle looks very slutty and that is sort of true with me. Being overly attractive is a real problem I can say. I am now 21 years old and I was in a relationship with a bisexual man (now 30) since I was 18. I was a virgin before I met him. Our relationship is very strong he loves me very much and I love him very much too. But he can't tell his family about his relationship with me as he has to get married. He wants to marry and have children. Basically he has no future plan about me. I also asked him thousands times what would happen to me. All he said was he will have relationship with me forever but he has to get married which means he wants to do adultery with me. It is clear that he never wants to lose me but keep me in background.

    Since I was young and in blindly love with him I never cared about it. But now that I know this is completely wrong so I decided to move on. Bit it was very difficult for me. However a month ago I found someone very perfect for me. He is a 47 years old divorced guy with 3 children (17 son, 13 son and * daughter) He is physically and mentally perfect for me. He respects me and very fond of me. I am his dream person, he introduces me with his children. I have had sex with him and that was amazing(my ex boyfriend is also amazing at sex). I told my ex about him and he just freaked out. He can't accept I can date another guy. He is devastated.

    He still doesn't have any future plan for me but he doesn't want me move on. I am his world and I am very important to him. He is too upset and totally broken. I feel so guilty that it seems to me I'm being too selfish. He calls me everyday and asks me to get back to him. If I continue hurting him he will do something very dangerous. He stopped eating regularly and smoking a lot. So I started pretending to him that I got back with him. But I don't want to pretend. I like my new BF very much but I can't see my ex dying like that.

    I don't know what to do. With my ex there is no future. With Eric I have everything. What do I do? I can't even tell Eric that I still talk to my ex over phone. I should inform that my ex lives hundreds mile away and last time we had sex was 6 months ago. Now what do I do. I don't want to loose Eric.
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    Mar 22, 2012, 11:48 PM
    My gosh woman! If you are not smart enough to figure out how to leave your married lover, and build a life with a guy, then you have not grown as much as you think you have.

    Give up the fantasy and get some reality.
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    Apr 3, 2012, 11:23 AM
    Stop feeling guilty. Move on to a committed relationship with your new BF.

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