[lorewater]

He's broken up with me 3 times. 1st time, he felt I was spoilt. 2nd time, I told him about my past, and he was disappointed. 3rd time now (a few days ago), I lost my temper over a minor issue and shouted at him, and he said he can't accept my verbal abuse.

We've been together for about 1 and a1/2 years and he's man I want to be with, but I feel that he's always breaking up with me because I'm the one at fault. I feel it's unfair that he didn't see what he did to make me get angry. Then he'll call back when he's cooled down and I always take him back because I love him. It's emotionally draining whenever he does that, and I'm sad and crying for a long time. He's talked about us getting engaged and married but just because of that one argument, he broke up with me again.

How can I get things back on track? Have looked for some counseling over my "verbal abuse" but I miss him, and want him back.

[talaniman]

By telling him straight to his face the next break up is the last one, and he has run out of chances to handle himself CORRECTLY! For sure if you keep going along with this then you condone it!

Having said that, you are out of control, and he would do well not to get back with you. You both need to do much better or stop wasting each other time.

[indya]

Are you sure you want him back? He seems to step out of the relationship when the slightest problem surfaces, how will he ever manage a marriage and its subsequent responsibility?

About verbal abuse, sometimes it's a good practice to hold your tongue(say whatever you want in your head). No one with a bit of self respect would like to put up with this.

Just let him go, he's as such going to run away when a new problem surfaces.