[rebelutionary]

I had been with my boyfriend for a couple of years. He was sweet, funny and I really believed we were "meant to be" although I've always been a cynic. Somehow, someway, I fell in love. After my abusive relationship, I never thought I'd be able to fall in love again; when it began happening, I instantly panicked and pushed him away. Over the course of our relationship, I stopped talking to him several times (I'm assuming because I was petrified) But each time, he was there. Always coming back to me or accepting me back.

A few months ago, we got really serious. I was planning on applying to graduate school in the city he lives in or a surrounding city. Oh, did I mention, he's a father? Yeah... and I think I need to tell you, I am not a fan of children.
Anyway, I know he can't move anywhere since he needs to be close to his child so I was thinking about making the sacrifice and moving closer to him but every time I'd bring it up with him he'd always shrug it off. He wouldn't even communicate with me at all about it. Nothing. I'd ask him his opinion and he wouldn't say anything, he would just tell me not to worry about it.
Also, he wouldn't communicate with me. And I think communication is very important to making a relationship last. He'd get mad at me and not tell me for weeks. He just wouldn't say anything at all.

Another thing that bothers me about him is that I know he treated his ex much better than he treated me. He always complains about how much he did for her. He talks about all the expensive gifts he bought her during their relationship. And I know he's just venting... but all I can think is "OMG! You bought that b**** a laptop? Wow." He would never buy me anything... not that I expect that but I just think it would be nice if he would have given me gifts on my birthday or for Christmas or just to show that he cares a little bit.

Something else that pushed me to this decision is the fact that he never calls me... he only texts. The only time he would ever call me was if he had a really bad day or received some horrible news and he needed some support or to vent. But he goes off on Facebook. He's all over the place on that stupid website. Everywhere I clicked it would be "EX Boyfriend likes this" or that or he'd like every single picture of these girls that are really young... he's in his mid twenties and he talks to these 19 year old girls on Facebook...

I tried for so long to ignore the stuff that bothered me about him because of the way I feel when I'm with him. He makes me immeasurably happy when I'm with him... but the rest of the time, I feel confused... and embarrassingly, like he's not good enough for me. But at the same time, I feel like I'm not going to be able to love anyone else the way I love him. Help?:(

[indya]

If you really weren't happy, then breaking up is the best thing to do. Being happy with him around isn't the only measure, the relationship should give you happiness irrespective of your partner's presence around you. From what you've mentioned here, he didn't seem to have put enough effort into the relationship. His Facebook activities and his frequent mentioning of his ex may be a sign that he's not that into you.

Always remember, if you are unsatisfied, its good to break up than to go on being miserable.

[yourmothersir]

You had me until you mentioned he was a dad and you don't like kids. You will end up being like a step mother.. You either "get over it" (which you won't because I do not like kids either and that has never changed) or you need to accept your decision. His kids will always be their and they need a loving atmosphere.