[angeljam]

My fiancŽ has fully custody of one child from a previous marriage and one with an ex-fiance. The child he had with the ex-fiance is bleeding him dry of his money to the point he is starting to have an issue supporting his daughter. He pays his full child support the ex fiancŽ but every time tax season comes around or if he gets a promotion at work the ex fiancŽ always seems to come out of the wood work and bullys and threatens my fiancŽ into giving her more more by saying "well if you don't give me the money I want I will find a way to throw you in jail" which in turns scares my fiancŽ into thinking if he goes to jail then he would loose his daughter (of whom he has full custody of). My fiancŽ hasn't seen his son (the one he pays child support on) in over 9 months due to the fear and risk to his, his daughters, and my safety. My fiancŽ can't afford an attorney and he has gone to the court house to look into giving up his rights but they said he would have to go to court. He is afraid to even be in the same building as his ex fiancŽ due to all the physical and emotional abuse she has done to him and his daughter. What are our options at this point? He pays child support on his son, has full custody of his daughter, and the exfiance basically threatens him in giving her more money. What are his rights? And what can we fight? He feels he's backed into a corner and I know this exfiance of his has got to be violating his rights.

[Fr_Chuck]

The dead beat dad can not give up his rights to get out of paying his proper child support.

If he is not paying it though the court that is his issue. The child does not get his income tax unless he is being in his payments in which case the child's mother can get the court to garnish it. If he gets a raise, they go to court and the court sets the new amount based on income.

Unless he is behind in payments he does not go to jail, but he does go to court to get the proper amount set.

[ScottGem]

First, he can't give up his rights. Second, he needs to get a backbone. This woman is intimidating and manipulating him.

The mother has absolutely NO way to throw him into jail unless he does something illegal. He needs to go to court to setup court ordered support, so she can't extort money from him. The court will order a support amount based on his income. He can also have the court order visitation. And if she doesn't allow him the visitation the court ordered, then he can get her thrown in jail.

Whether the mother is violating his rights or not depends on what has occurred in court. And we don't know what. But nothing is going to change in this situation until he gets some backbone and stands up to her.

[angeljam]

He's not a dead beat dad. He's current on all child support and wants to see his son but for his safety, his daughters safety, and my safety he hasn't. It's not like he doesn't want to see his son its just she has got one heck of a temper and is majorly bi polar. There for if you look at her wrong (in her eyes) she will snap and go off.

[ScottGem]

And again, he needs to get some backbone. If she is such a danger to HIS child, then he should be fighting for primary custody, for his son's safety.

But the bottom line is he will not be allowed to relinquish his rights, he definitely will not be allowed to stop child support. So rather then walk in fear of her, he needs to become a man and deal with it.

[kcthatsme]

I agree with ScottGem! He needs to grow a pair and not let this woman push him around!