[JussBizzNiss]

Okay so I have this female friend id say we've grown to be pretty close. She has a BF, at first who cares, but now its getting weird. Here's the story

Back in early November I had a girlfriend we had a nice relationship everything was cool. One day I took the bus home from work and met a new girl. I was sitting in the back of the bus alone and she sat in the front, she came way to the back and sat a seat behind me, then proceeded to ask if she could share seats with me. I said "sure". Thinking I shouldn't pass up the chance we exchanged numbers. A few days Later she was coming over, she through conversation I found me. She had a boyfriend (I did not mention my gf) on about her 3rd or 4th visit, my girlfriend just dropped by and busted me (only hanging out). Anyway I told her we are only friends but she stayed pissed and about 2 weeks later we parted ways.

The new girl however, was unmoved by this and continues to come to my house. She's got a BF but has been spending time with ME ALL DAY, EVERYDAY for about 3 months. She comes over, we really hang out and do friend stuff (baking cakes. watching movies, drinking, eating she even cooks for me. We talk about sex a lot, and no topic is off limits in our conversation) I haven't spent any money on her and we haven't gone out because my car has recently been broken, so I don't think she's using me (if so for what?).

I just kept telling myself, "shes got a BF so she's pretty much off limits" but one day I thought What the heck is her BF doing? Why is she always with me and not him? Then he called one day while she was over the phone was on speaker he asked where was she and didn't reply quick enough. And he said " you're with him aren't you? Surprised the hell out of me and a huge argument ensued, she hung up on him... he called back to back she ignored him... Then I realized his ring tone and further realized that she had been ignoring his calls like that since we met. He broke up with her over me once, and came back. Recently she told ME he broke up with her again because she told him, he no longer makes her happy. I think they will get back together.

I've never made any moves on her because initially I was only looking to be friends and I didn't want to be a ****head GF thief but now as we have grown closer and closer I think I may want a bit more. It just seems like we would be a good match because we share a lot of the same interest, and have a lot in common maybe almost too much. I was content at first, but people keep asking me if we are together and its kind of got me thinking we should be. I don't know what I should do.

I haven't had a GF since the last one and the new girl knows I haven't been with anyone else. Also I told her after the last girl. I just wanted to take things easy relationship wise. But she's always around and we keep getting closer and closer. What do you guys think she's thinking. Am I the idiot here or what?
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[talaniman]

Am I the idiot here or what?

Anybody that cheats on their partner is an idiot!

Anybody that allows another to destroy their relationship is an idiot!

Anybody that allows another who cheats on their partner with them is an idiot!

Anybody who doesn't know what to do about a cheater is an idiot!

Anybody that is dumb enough to be lead by the nose is an idiot!

Do I have to keep going to make the point or are you getting this. To be honest I think she used you to make him jealous.

Or she is a playa and wanted the next fool locked in before she left the other fool.

Or she wants to make sure she has no guilt for cheating because its his fault she is with you.

Or she thinks you are the idiot who will fall for her game and let her do whatever she pleases.

What opened you up to being such an idiot, was the idea, YOU could lie, and cheat, and be a playa.

Anybody who thinks that is an idiot. And it sounds like she will get what she wants as long as you let her.

[Homegirl 50]

I think you are both cheaters and are playing juvenile games. Why would you want to be with her knowing how she treated her last boy friend.Aand she saw how you disrespected yours. I guess you are both one of a kind.

[JussBizzNiss]

You guys suck Maaan.
How are You going to Blame ME because she doesn't like her old BF anymore?
How was I cheating on MY GF sitting outside in the driveway with company?
All we do is talk to each other and WE enjoy eachothers company, what's wrong?
Maybe if MY GF had talked with ME instead of going crazy I wouldve tried to keep her around.
Maybe if HER BF talked with HER instead of going crazy she wouldn't say he makes HER unhappy.
WE are and have only been Friends the entire time.
Now we are both single... and Niether of us asked for breakups. They Left US
The only thing Juvenile is their insecurities and Trust issues.

[talaniman]

Thinking I shouldn't pass up the chance we exchanged numbers. A few days Later she was coming over, she through conversation I found me. She had a bf (i did not mention my gf) on about her 3rd or 4th visit, my gf just dropped by and busted me (only hanging out). Anyway I told her we are only friends but she stayed pissed and about 2 weeks later we parted ways.

Just asking since you mentioned your girlfriend went crazy after finding the two of you together, why you never introduced the two of them to each other? If it was innocent friends as you say, why hide it, or LOOK like you were hiding it.

The new girl however, was unmoved by this and continues to come to my house. She's got a BF but has been spending time with ME ALL DAY, EVERYDAY for about 3 months

That's a huge red flag my friend, she didn't care about breaking up your great relationship. Almost like she knew it would happen.

I just kept telling myself, "shes got a BF so she's pretty much off limits" but one day I thought What the heck is her BF doing? Why is she always with me and not him?

Of course you questioned it in your own mind but obviously never asked her what was up.

Recently she told ME he broke up with her again because she told him, he no longer makes her happy. I think they will get back together.

No doubt, they probably have unfinished business together. And no doubt she told him of you to make sure he was jealous, and thinking he would change whatever is making her unhappy with him. Do you even know? You should if somebody else girl is hanging with you for 3 months.

I haven't had a GF since the last one and the new girl knows I haven't been with anyone else.

She came between you and your girl, that you were happy with, and you have latched onto her. Classic rebound, and worse you allowed your FRIEND to lead you astray. You haven't been with anyone else, EXCEPT her, which was all the time.

Also I told her after the last girl. I just wanted to take things easy relationship wise. But she's always around and we keep getting closer and closer. What do you guys think she's thinking. Am I the idiot here or what?

And she is because she is going nowhere, except back and forth between you and the guy that dumped her, and of course you justify your actions behind your girls back as just friends and you got dumped over nothing. Boy is that a dose of denial if I ever saw one. Sweet innocent YOU!!

And for sure you believe anything she tells you. I mean where does she go when she isn't visiting YOU??

You're easy, she knows it, and for sure what she is doing to the other guy, she will surely do to YOU!! The sad part in all this, you will have no one to blame for yourself at what happened, and what will happen.

Think guy, isn't everything to good to be true? Yes you cheated on your ex, because like you said "I said "sure". Thinking I shouldn't pass up the chance" and since it was behind your GF's back, unknown to her, that's cheating. Had she done the same to you, you would have cried CHEATER!