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zambers · Jan 19, 2012, 10:20 PM

I met this guy during the summer. Surprisingly enough, his best friend is my best friend (bestfriend is a guy), but him and I didn't get introduced till recently. Since the summer, whenever all of us would hangout with our mutual friends, he'd always want to kiss me, but I'd always reject him, considering we'd always be intoxicated and I'd fear he wouldn't remember. A few weeks ago he got discharged from a clinic due to illness caused by family issues. Him and some mutual friends came over, kind of to celebrate I guess you could say. Throughout the night he kept wanting to hold my hand and kiss me, but as usual I rejected him. In the morning it was just him and I watching a movie, he asked to kiss me again, this time I actually accepted, and he told me he's always had a crush on me. Things went further then just kissing. After what happened. I went to the bathroom. And he was on my laptop looking at girls saying how pretty they were and stuff, and then I went on my phone to check out guys to show him (childish, I know) and he turns and gives me a hug and kisses me and starts laughing because he thought it was cute how I was trying to make him jealous. He told me that he wasn't ready to date, but that we should hangout more or whatever.

What could this mean?
Does he actually like me?
Did he just want something from me?
I'm confused. I really don't know what to think of it.

Any advice?

Yellow1234 · Jan 20, 2012, 12:35 AM

If he is saying that he doesn't want to date, the sad truth is that he is probably just using you. If he really does like you then he should be willing to take you on an actual date. Maybe you could try talking to him? I hope things work out for the best!

zambers · Jan 20, 2012, 02:00 AM

Yellow - I'm actually seeing him next week, he's joining
Me on my birthday with some mutual friends of ours. I don't know
If that changes anything, but I'll keep an update.

Cat1864 · Jan 20, 2012, 08:31 AM

What do you want from him? If it is a relationship, then I think you need to look elsewhere. He has already told you he isn't interested in a committed relationship. It would take several dates without sex being involved for me to think he had changed his mind IF he tries to tell you he is ready to be in one.

If you want a sex buddy with no strings attached (can't complain if he has more than one playmate), then continue 'seeing' him and allowing sex to 'happen' (please remember the possible consequences and that no form of birth control short of removal of the ovaries is 100% effective.)

Is he still drinking a lot?

Please, be very careful on your birthday. It would be too easy for him to say all the right things and for nothing to have changed.