[smoothy]

Yes, you have to cut ALL ties to the louse. ANY connection what-so-ever is only going to prolong the pain and make it worse... the Most quick way to get past it, is just avoid him, any talk of him, ANYTHING to do with him.

Do that and soon you will be wondering why you didn't do that from the beginning.

Learn from this misadventure... and try to not make the same mistakes again.

Heck, I can't even remember the names of most of the girls I dated before I met my wife. I can tell you what every one of them did that made we walk however... and I still have mental picture of every one...

[busybee25]

Hey Smoothy/Talaniman,

Yeah I agree to both of you. In fact I have started ignoring him already. He has done a new account. And writes to me from that new account. But I don't reply to him. Though its difficult to hold on myself back, but I am not replying at all. Coz I know if I do that I'll fall in the same rut back again.
I am trying my level best to deal with it.

I thank both of you from the bottom of my heart, for helping me out with it. Sometimes I may have put up stupid/kiddish posts but both of you have been there to help and guide me. Thanks sooooooooooo much to both of you. God bless you both :)

[smoothy]

Just remember the longer you ignore him... the easier it will be to continue ignoring him.

Its only hard at first. Before long it will be no effort at all.

[busybee25]

I agree Smoothy, and I am doing my best to put my mind off it. But of course I am a human being, have a heart, have emotions and the worst part is that I loved him with a true heart shared true emotions with him. Even if I ignore him, I still have everything in my mind and heart which is all so fresh yet. I haven't forgotten a single thing that we spoke about. You know Smoothy, he said he has taught his son my name and his son calls me mother. He said he has mentioned about me to all his family members. His dad passed away a few moths back and he visits his dad's grave everyday. I used to tell him to take flowers for his dad and water his dad's grave everyday on my behalf. I mean I am just trying to tell you that I got so emotionally attached to him, and this was much beyond than just romancing. It just so much flowed in me like blood. And I can block him or ignore him, but its very difficult for me to just forget things so soon. He has been a fake, but I haven't. My heart has just been torn apart. And it is still bleeding. I wish I was one of those girls who get over things in rage. I love myself, but in situations like these I hate myself for being so hell emotional ;'(

[smoothy]

Stop thinking about him, stop talking about him... I bet most of what he has told you are also lies as well.

He also told you other things and you found out what lies they were.

Only fools and obsesive compulive types can't ever let go.

I don't think you are either. Its hard now... next month is will be far easier, next year you will wonder what you ever saw in him, and years from now... you won't even remember his name.

It takes time... and like the Chinese proverb... "a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step."

I've done this not once, not twice, but over a dozen times.

Trust me its rarely easy at first... but it does get easier the longer you do it.

[busybee25]

Yeah I agree. I know he doesn't deserve any of my love. For that matter no one's because all he knows is to fool girls for his own entertainment. You have really been too patient in handling things with me. And I sure wouldn't let your guidance go waste. I will put it to practice. Slowly but surely. Thank you Smoothy, thank you so much. God bless you

[smoothy]

You need to remember one word...

Patience...

The time will go much faster than you think it will. Just stick with it and you will see.

There are plenty of genuinely good people out there, you have to let the toads go if you want to find them.

You have to kiss a few toads to find a real prince.

[busybee25]

Thanks Smoothy. You are just so super good and kind. Your last sentence brought me such a smile. I really smiled truly after a long time, just now. How I wish your words in your last sentence comes out true. Thanks Smoothy, for trying to heal me with your kind and gentle words. May God bless you abundantly. Amen!

[nishant202]

The search for more goes on and on and the truth is usually whole life is spent in this.
It all depends on what is one's philosophy of life.
Whether one would buy a car and take it out when all lights in the city go green or one would take with even few green lights.

[mmresd]

The time will come whenever it comes, no one here will be able to tell you this information, and I doubt anyone really can.