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    Jan 7, 2012, 01:20 PM
    My boyfriend won't have sex anymore
    My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years he is 36 and I am 26 when we first started talking all he cared about was sex he was even having sex with different girls when we official got together the sex was great and now its been 7 months since we've had sex he won't touch me nor will he let me touch him. When I try to talk to him about it he just says he isn't a sexual person, but has a wide collection of porn and even porn pictures in his phone.. what is the deal is he cheating on me like I believe he is?
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    Jan 7, 2012, 07:55 PM
    Sounds to me like you are friends... not boyfriend-girlfriend. And that's all he wants.
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    Jan 9, 2012, 04:42 PM
    Sounds like to me your right and that's where it throws me, cause we talk about future plans but its seeming like just talk you would think at 26 I would have a better take on things but I'll just walk away and make him an ex cause I even tried to talk to him about if he just wanted to be friends and he won't talk to MOVINGGGGGG ONNNNN
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    Jan 10, 2012, 06:35 AM
    Great... we have all been there... sometimes you just have to cut your losses and move on... for your own good, and your own goals in life. You want someone who shares the same interests, and goals that you do. And many of us waste years with people that don't, and never will. THose are years we never get back. And I was just as guilty of this mistake in my early 20's as well, wasteing my time with women that didn't measure up to what I was looking for. In effect, missing out on Miss Right to settle for Miss Right Now. I did eventually meet Miss Right and she became Mrs Smoothy.
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    Jan 22, 2012, 01:22 PM
    It might have been helpful to post how pregnant you are - whether he is comfortable having sex during your pregnancy and/or so close to delivery.

    Sometimes info does matter.
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    Jan 22, 2012, 02:32 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    It might have been helpful to post how pregnant you are - whether he is comfortable having sex during your pregnancy and/or so close to delivery.

    Sometimes info does matter.
    Very much so... some guys get turned on by a pregnant woman... others get freakishly weirded out by the whole thing...
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    Jan 23, 2012, 05:13 PM
    Instead of resorting to snooping, I think it is time for you to let it go while you have your baby and heal. Right now is the worst possible time to try to figure out what he is doing or not doing. Concentrate of having a healthy baby (congratulations) and recovery.

    Porn won't tell you what his libido is doing. Some people look just for the sake of looking. Porn will also not tell you if he is freaking out about the pregnancy and raising a child or seeing you as a mother instead of a lover.

    After the baby is born, sit down with him and talk about the relationship. I don't think lack of sex is the only problem. It is more than likely a symptom of greater issues such as being tired, scared, worried, stressed, etc. Talk to each other and not just about sex or the lack of it. See if broadening the discussion helps him feel better about sharing his feelings and thoughts. I hope you can work together to find out what the issues are and how to fix them.
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