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hizgurl · Jan 7, 2012, 08:23 AM

We text 24/7.and spend every weekend together but this weekend he decided not too be with me this weekend.but I want to make him feel like he's making me feel.like my guy is drifting away.

Wondergirl · Jan 7, 2012, 08:30 AM

Drifting away? You are smothering the poor guy! Please give him some space before he takes all the space from you permanently.

There's an old saying; "Absence makes the heart grow fonder."

Kahani Punjab · Jan 7, 2012, 08:43 AM

Hizgurl,

Firstly, welcome to this great site!

You text him, tell him, convey your feelings to him, in some way, if you can't control yourself. It is natural, as your love for him is beyond bounds, and I can perceive from your words, that your love is genuine and long-lasting. He must not have done so, I mean should not have drifted in such a way.

Ask him the reason, and see if he is dating someone else. Ask him politely how would he have felt if you had given him a word/vow/promise to meet at a particular place on a particular day, and would not have turned up. Tell him, you expected him there but he did not turned up. How would he have felt if he was at your position?

JudyKayTee · Jan 7, 2012, 08:50 AM

Originally Posted by Kahani Punjab

Hizgurl,

Firstly, welcome to this great site!

You text him, tell him, convey your feelings to him, in some way, if you can't control yourself. It is natural, as your love for him is beyond bounds, and I can perceive from your words, that your love is genuine and long-lasting. He must not have done so, I mean should not have drifted in such a way.

Ask him the reason, and see if he is dating someone else. Ask him politely how would he have felt if you had given him a word/vow/promise to meet at a particular place on a particular day, and would not have turned up. Tell him, you expected him there but he did not turned up. How would he have felt if he was at your position?

I realize you are not in the US and perhaps things are different in other parts of the World but I don't see a "genuine, long-lasting" love here. I see a person turning into a stalker. Texting 24/7 does not a lasting love make.

Love does not mean you spend every free minute with the other person.

I don't see that there was an arrangement to meet and he failed to show up - I see that OP WANTS there to be an arrangement but he had other plans.

What am I missing?

Kahani Punjab · Jan 7, 2012, 08:59 AM

Judy Kay Tee,

Thanks for reading, replying and reacting to what I wrote. Dear, in the initiation, if she is having such an attitude, she is very possive and concerned about him. If they have been meeting - as she said, and I replied believing what she wrote to be true - on all previous weekends, it is expected of him to intimate about his absence or failure or the compulsion of not coming. Is not it?

Wondergirl · Jan 7, 2012, 09:18 AM

I don't see that he is "drifting away" if he chooses to spend a weekend apart from someone he normally is in constant communication with. Had they talked about it, or did he just "disappear"? Has he expressed his desire to do something else without her? Why does she need such control over his life as to want him with her in person or in text constantly?

Are these two 12 years old or 17 or 45 or in their 80s? Have they been married for a long time or have they known each other for only a few months? Does he share the OP's enthusiasm for this relationship, or does he wish she would find something else to do?

My impression from the spelling and phrasing is that the OP is very young. The title alone ("How too MAKE your boyfriend...") to me says reams about the situation.

JudyKayTee · Jan 7, 2012, 09:36 AM

Originally Posted by Kahani Punjab

Judy Kay Tee,

Thanks for reading, replying and reacting to what I wrote. Dear, in the initiation, if she is having such an attitude, she is very possive and concerned about him. If they have been meeting - as she said, and I replied believing what she wrote to be true - on all previous weekends, it is expected of him to intimate about his absence or failure or the compulsion of not coming. Is not it?

No, it's not, not in my eyes. She doesn't own him. She doesn't have an expectation of spending every free minute with him. There is no promise between them - of marriage or anything else.

I agree - how to "make" the boyfriend miss her? She doesn't know that he doesn't miss her. He may have other things to do, other friends, may be tired of the 24/7 texting.

Just as a side note (and it's a personal irritation to me), please don't call me "dear." I find it patronizing.