[twanajay]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now. A year ago he said he wanted us to move in together, we got on line and looked for houses together, I have children and he has one. I told my children that we were moving they were so excited. Then out of the blue he says, he doesn't think it's a good idea for us to live with each other. So we didn't. My children were disappointed, and so was I. We stayed together though. I found out, at the time he changed his mind he was trying to get back with his ex GF. He said he was having a hard time letting go of her. But he said he was done, and doesn't want to be back with her. He said he loves me and wants to be with me. He ended all contact with the ex.

6 months later he says he wants us to move in with each other again. This time we find a house and sign the lease and we move in. It's been 5 months since we moved in the house and in the past two weeks he has told me, he thinks it would be better if we lived apart, he said he knows he loves me he just doesn't think he's IN love with me, AND he still has a soft spot for his ex GF. He says he still loves me and wants to be in a relationship with me, but I can't get past the other things he's said. What do I do? Do I move out of my house and uproot my children and let him go?

[talaniman]

You do whatever it takes to get this guy out of your life, and keep him out. That's what needs to be done.

He ain't in it to win it, never was. Probably never will be. I don't care what he says. Don't give him another chance to screw you AND your kids again.

[Xerxes12]

Does not sound as if he truly has the maturity and desire to make this his one and only love/relationship. Not good. For you or your children. You deserve someone who will love you fully, completely, forever. Children need stability - and he's not giving them that, not even a little bit!