[StephanieCoble]

Okay well there is this guy I like a lot. I'm actually in love with him. So here's our story.

I was in 7th grade and he was in 6th grade. One of our friends got us together. We dated for a month, two weeks, and two days. And in the period we didn't get to hang out at all. The only time was at school. But we never really saw each other. A week before we broke up a lot of people were telling me that he was only trying to be nice. And that he never really liked me. I picked to stay with him and try to make it work. Well I never got to talk to him about it. And I kept hearing it. He bought me 40k earrings and a card that said how much he liked me.

Well, the next day I broke up with him, cause I couldn't take it anymore. We never talked about it. Simply cause we stopped talking. Well October 9th 2011, we started talking, just out of the blue, and yeah I never lost that feeling for him but it came back, stronger then ever, and we started talking about kissing, and how I never had my first kiss.

Well he got a great idea, since he was my first boyfriend, he should be my first kiss. I agreed, and we talked about how and when it was going to happened. Well October 12th 2011, when we got off the bus we walked to the Football Locker Room.. Put put away his pants and socks. The bell rang for us to go to class, and he hugged me for a few, and then pulled away. But not to fall away, and he kissed me. My first kiss. (: It was amazing. Like a dream come true. (: And That day at lunch we hung out, and we talked about nothing, and he hugged me and held me, and was kissing me, and everything felt right, like we belong together.

We picked to be friends with benefits for this time and then we would date again. (: The next day.. We were hanging out at lunch. It seemed like thing had changed over night. Like he didn't really talk to me and he only kissed me once. And I thought things were great between us, but I guess there weren't. That next day he got a girlfriend and it wasn't me. I was hurt and felt used. It's been 11 weeks. We haven't talked. I talked to his three brothers, and his mom. I have NO clue what happened. Did he like me. Was he trying to get even. Did he not want to get hurt again? Cause if that's the case, I want to be with him for the rest for my life. I love him

[talaniman]

So sorry your first boyfriend, and first kiss ended so badly. I know it hurts, but don't chase him at all. That will look bad for you, but as much as you hate it, your friends are right, move on and soon the next great love will appear.

That's what usually happens with friends with benefits though, someone always gets hurt.

Sorry.

[StephanieCoble]

Should I follow my heart and go with my gut.. Or listen to everyone and go with my head. Help please..

[JudyKayTee]

You were friends with benefits, right? Well, sounds like he wants out of the relationship/agreement... for some reason.

He's your friend. Ask him.

I have more friends who get into friends with benefits relationships and discover that the "friend" has lost all respect and moves on.