[misha.jain]

I love a guy we are in relationship from last 3-4 yrs. We really make a good couple. He cares for me a lot and loves too, but I don't know what happened to him from last 1 year, as he started ignoring me. Before this 1 year we were really very happy, but now I guess he is happy, but I'm not. When I ask him about the reason of change in him, he just replies that he has not changed at all. I have changed myself I don't love him anymore. Now a days he always hides everything from me, and previously he used to ask every kind of little thing also to me, but now he doesn't even bother to tell me where he is or what he is doing?

From last 1 yr we are just been fighting only, and if we will find the reason for our fight then there would be no reason, we are just fighting without any reason. Sometimes I think that there is another gal in his life. I asked him many times but he replied that "jaan esa kch b ni h I really love you a lot, I'm just busy in my work nothing else".

I asked him that if you have some else in your life, then tell me, I will leave you, then he says that I can't live without you, and I won't let you to leave me. If you won't call, then I will call you, cause I want this relation. Sometimes when I'm angry and I say that I just want to a break up, then sometimes he just changes the topic, and sometimes says, okay don't do that. And sometimes says OK, fine I'm also fed up with this relationship, its better that we break up our relation. But after some time when he realize he calls me back.

Sometimes he also discuss on our marriage topic that I want to marry you etc etc... He just says okay I'm busy in my work, just to prove to your father that I love you and I'm suitable guy for him. I'm really very confused. Sometimes I think he loves me, but sometimes its like no he doesn't loves me.

Before this 1 year he used call me within a hour but now he doesn't even bothers to ask how are you? What are you doing? Previously we used to talk for hours and hours without bothering about the time, but now he just talks for 1-2 minutes, and will say, okay, I will call you back after some time, but you know he never calls back. I just wait and wait for his call all the time. Sometimes I just think, okay, I will leave him, but believe me, I can't live without him. I just love him a lot and I know that he too does, but now what is happening to me that I'm not able to understand.

I'm really confused what to do? How to get him back? How to get that love life back Do you really think that he loves me? What should I do?

Please help.


Edited for understanding/T

[talaniman]

Sure he loves you, and is busy making a life, and if you relaxed and stop being so in need of his attention, and let him have some space to breath without you going crazy, then you would be less stressed and stop the arguing over nothing.

Then there would be no reason to argue, and you both would be glad to see each other again.

Act as an adult, and not a needy child who needs constant attention, and entertainment. Have other things to do, so he can have some space to do other things too.

Then you can both miss each other, and be glad to be together.

[ilovemusic8]

I really think that you guys spend wayy to0 much time together, look if you would back off, and if you want him to call you don't call him! Even if it takes 3 days, let him call you! Since your doing all the chasing, how could he do the chase? U are over doing it! Sincerely, yes you both love each other, but also try to understand its stressful for him, he is doing his best to be accepted by your father, and I guess he has a goal set! That's why he works also, OK just let things flow naturally! Don't be the one constantly calling him, just relax do your thing and if he calls you he calls you! Let him be the one that comes to you, and be ready to hear him out! I guess its just stress, just start all over like if you just met him and went on dates! Or when you waited for his calls! OK so I'm guessing you must know everything about him by now, well almost everything that's why he has nothing to tell you! Let him be alone certain days, so he can tell you what bothers him! Best Of Luck