[emaddocks]

Ok... well I'm not completely sure how to begin so I'll start that my name is Emily. I am 16 teen years old and I'm very lonely. The reason for this is because I'm gay. I have known this for a while. I've kept it in for many years. I was so scared to even say it out loud. Now I've been trying to tell people. I have lost so many people over the past couple of weeks because of this. They just don't know how to react around me. It makes it feel like a curse rather than a blessing. I feel like I'm never going to meet someone and I'm scared I'm going to be alone the rest of my life. Just want to meet someone like me. I want to feel like I'm not alone. I just want to be loved like everyone else. I guess this isn't really a question but if anyone is out there feeling like I'm feeling please help in some way.

Thank you

[Renny13]

Hey my names Lauren and I'm straight so I guess I can't say I know how you feel but in a way I do I've been looking for someone for a while now I'm 13 so your probably not going to read this and care but hey it worth a shot.Ok first the people that walked away it might be hard to believe but they weren't worth your time at all if the were they would have in the first place they would love you as a friend no matter what the are:)And as for the loneliness you'll find someone its hard to believe but I'm going to tell you a secret... you ready... no matter who you are there someone out there for you :D probably feeling the same way and the best part about it is people give up on love everyday but love doesn't give up on us one day it will just hit you and come out of know where and you'll find someone Emily by the way my friends name is Emily :) lolz back on topic you'll find new friends and people who accept you and care and that hell called loneliness will fade but remember something if it was not for loneliness we wouldn't have love know would we:)<3<3<3 And another thing being gay isn't a curse gay guys rock my sockz you can't help who you are and people need to get over the fact that you unique:)~Renny

[Fr_Chuck]

First how are you telling everyone, did you feel a need to "announce" it? If so why, why could you not just live that way, date that way. I worked with a guy for two years before I found out he was gay, he was not ashamed of it, not hiding it, but also did not have any reason to tell everyone. It was just that he was. I don't go around telling everyone, hey I am straight, I am just straight.

But in today's society, no one should really even care if they are your friends. For most, perhaps they just don't know how to react or talk to you about it,

[j3llo93]

Hi emily. I'm gay too and I "came out" around the age of 16 as well! My high school was very diverse and decently open to everything so when I came out I had little to no problem with friends "accepting" me. If they can't accept you they're really not worth knowing.
There are a lot more homosexual people than you know, they're just scared to come out. And I just wanted to reassure you that after you graduate from high school and go to college you will have plenty of opportunities to meet someone! Multiple people even. High school is very small compared to college. Soon you won't be feeling so lonely as long as you put yourself out there! Best of luck to you!

[talaniman]

Hi Emily, sorry that you feel alone but there are many like you who just want to be accepted for who they are. I think we all do, gay straight or whatever.

Sometimes people just don't understand, and sometimes they are afraid, but mostly its about being friends first before you tell them all your deep secrets, because truth be told they were not friends in the first place, or don't know how to handle their feelings, or fears.

Sure you may be alone now, but no need to be lonely, just do your thing with family and activities that make you happy, and don't worry about those that are not happy with you.

You being gay has nothing to do with you being happy. Just know the problems of others is not your problem. Let your happiness attract friends, not your sexuality.

Because others are afraid, no reason for you to be and queit as its kept, fear of the future is something we all have, especially at 16. SMILE, It will get better.

[unshy13]

Heyy.. I usually don't answer questions but when I read yours I wanted to let you know its okay! If your gay its okay. A lot of my friends are gay or bi, I myself am straight but open. About a year or two ago my best friend and I were talking and she told me she was questioning and that she didn't want to lose her friends because of it. After she told me, I felt closer to her because she trusted me enough to tell me. I told her that I would always be there for her. The next day she told her parent and they told her that it was okay and that they love her no matter what. We are both going to be 19 in June and she has been with her girlfriend for about 9 months now and it hasn't changed our relationship or her relationship with most of her other friend. I do have to say that there were a few friends that walked away but she didn't care because she knows she's loved by her real friends and her family. I want you to know that you are not a "curse" your human!! If you ever need extra support check out www.thetrevorproject.org, www.noh8campaign.com, or www.itgetsbetter.org