[granddragon101]

Hi all
This is my first time I'v ever written anything like this on a forum but I don't know where else to turn!

I started seeing a girl from work around 3 months ago, to this day she still refuses to call each other girlfriend & boy friend stating past relationships being to painful and not wanting to be hurt again.
We got on really well from the first time we ever worked together, had some drinks and went back to mine and slept together along with a male friend of mine who I worked with and some how got involved (we were all really drunk, I don't know how this happened it was a first for all 3 of us as far as everyone is willing to admit)

She suffers from depression which I thought I could handle but things are becoming more and more hard work with each other.
We have stopped having sex (I am fine when alone but unable to proform when she's around/inbed)
We also rushed into moving in together after only, well she never really went home after our first night together, only ot get cloths and other bits.

It worries me as I know she was sleeping with someone else when we first got together, she claims to have stopped since we meet but it's hard to believe when is now Friends with him, goes to his house and disapearers for hours claiming to have fallen asleep.
I don't want to be overly possesive, I want her to have friends and a really good life with no ristrictions but it's hard to trust her knowing she always gets texts off other guys too and texts back saying she loves them and worse claiming it's only flirting and I have nothing to worry about.

I care about her a lot and when she is on her meds or illegal high things are blissful, she tells me and shows me that she loves me and I can see that she does. After writing all this down I can see a clearer picture of what's been happening, it doesn't sound like a healthy relationship but we both make each other so happy when things are going right.

A massive part of me hopes that I'm wrong and being worried about nothing and that we can make things work.
What should I do?

[geminichick]

It sounds like the relationship was rushed and seeing people from work really doesn't mix that well. YOur seeing messages that she tells guys that she loves them is not flirting with them. Being out at all night and sleeping at a "past lovers" house has got "danger" written all over it. Honestly, why would she need to be at his place if it was a relationship of the past. Staying there the night is pretty suspisious for me. I think your intuition is telling you the right thing. YOu can seldom go wrong with your intuition.

A part of you wants this to work out but you do know, at least, what I'm going to say. She needs to be out of your life. YOu also mentioned that she suffered from depression and did you mean she is using illegal street drugs as well? She has issues she needs to have dealt with, but, that's not up to you to solve them for her.

I think possibly you can't be intimate with her because you know that she is being unfaithful to you. That can put a damper on a couples sex life. Do you want to really be with this woman who you can't trust or do you want to move on and be with someone that you can share all the same dreams and hopes you have? There is a special someone out there for you, but if you continue to wrap yourself in this relationship where you are not fully satisfied and happy, than you'll never find out who she is. A relationship always has it's ups and downs. This is a relationship you have to move away from. Take Care!

[SalisTreah1307]

If you really love this girl you stick with her but if your not feeling her then let go but still be friends