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    Apr 18, 2010, 12:10 PM
    Trying to date a girl with trust issues
    Hello I'm a Junior in College 22 years old and I recently met this girl and we hit it off really well. We talked constantly and even though we couldn't see much face to face we interacted a lot... Trying to get to know each other, being witty, etc. However its been a month and I went out on a date with her once in the beginning and I have yet to set a specific time for the 2nd date but she agreed to go on a second one.

    I first felt that recently in the past few weeks the interaction has lessoned and I thought she began to lose interest. Being honest I asked her and she told me its because of her ex. She has a tough time learning how to trust because he cheated on her. It was itterated more than once so I believe it's the truth and I don't know how to go about this. Like she tells me she is comfortable with me and she likes my company however I don't know what I can do to let her know I'm not like that.. Suggestions thanks again!
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    Apr 18, 2010, 12:57 PM

    Let her know that you're interested in hanging out again, but there's no reason to push her to come out. She will come out when she's ready. Until then, just keep getting to know her better. It's only been a month of communicating. As long as she's still talking to you, you have a chance. But don't put pressure on her to do something that she's not ready to do yet.

    As for you, are you sure you're completely over this break up? https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ed-407255.html

    Sounds like you're on the rebound and rushing to get a new girlfriend.
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    Apr 18, 2010, 02:08 PM

    Well I am happy being myself now its only been around 6 months... but I feel like I understand the situation better and if this happens its great if not I totally am fine with it.

    Also do I continue to initiate first? Because I feel like I'm the only one initiating so should I just wait until she begins?
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    Apr 18, 2010, 02:19 PM

    Sure, it's a way of finding out how interested she really is. You've done your part by showing your interest, let's see if she's just as interested, i.e. initiate first.
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    Apr 18, 2010, 02:39 PM

    Great well lol the progression is: talking 24/7 to talking here and there to not doing anything to see if she is also interested...

    Hmm I guess I'm just trying to be logical but I will def see how it goes for the next few days if I don't initiate. However I usually tend to say good night or good morning does that also stop too?
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    Apr 18, 2010, 02:41 PM

    It doesn't have to stop, but don't you want to find out how she's going to react if you don't do it? It will give you more insight on how she feels about you.
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    Apr 18, 2010, 02:54 PM

    heh well I know that at times when I was confused as to whether she was still interested... I stopped doing it and I would get a text from her... but true I guess your right =]
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    Apr 21, 2010, 01:10 PM
    You got to wait for her to text you and treat her like she doesn't have the trust problem treat her like any other girls you've liked and as long as you don't give her a reason to not trust you she will trust you
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    Apr 21, 2010, 01:31 PM

    She knows that you are interested in her and want a 2nd date.

    Now just be patient and wait on her to do something.

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