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HopelesRomantic · Nov 30, 2011, 06:11 PM

Greetings everyone. I'll try to explain as best I can.

Almost 2 years ago, I had asked out a very close friend of mine. She was (still is in fact) everything I look for in a girl. Not perfect, but perfect for me. We were deeply in love, but it was a long distance relationship and she had (possibly still has) a case of Bipolar, which I helped with as best I could throughout our relationship.

In the late summer of this year, we were getting rather rocky. We've never fought at all, just some 'personal space' needs on her part, which she regretted afterwards. A week or so after that, our relationship was just as good as it had always been, if not better.

The last time I saw her was the Sunday before she broke up with me, in which she told me to always remember she loved me. On Wednesday, Sept. 28th, 2011 (it's literally embedded in my memory), she called me at about 6:30 at night. She sounded very down, to say the least and I asked why. She said it as nothing, but I 'pestered' (not in an annoying way, more like 'I care about you and I want to know what's wrong') and she said she was breaking up with me for one devilishly simple reason: she no longer loved me. I was and still am heartbroken over it.

We continued to talk for a week after that day, in which she said she still wanted to be friends, she's sorry, she never meant for this, etc. Then we decided it was best if I were to stop all contact with her.

It's been over 2 months and my emotions are in no way better, if not worse. I love her dearly, to the very point I believe it's unhealthy. But I honestly don't care; I love her, and I want her back terribly. She said we would never be together again, but she also said she would always love me. The pain I've been feeling is unlike anything I've experienced.

I know I'm depressed and that I need to do something, but I have no idea what. I need help. If anyone can offer it, please tell me so this burden leaves my shoulders.

With high hopes,
Mike

mmresd · Nov 30, 2011, 06:57 PM

Break ups suck, especially at first. It is not hard to remember something that happened a few days ago. It takes time to get over a break up. Go no contact, accept the relationship is over, keep yourself busy, and before you know it, you will be OK with being single again. You lived OK before her, you will live OK after her.

talaniman · Dec 1, 2011, 02:29 PM

I love her dearly, to the very point I believe it's unhealthy. But I honestly don't care; I love her, and I want her back terribly. She said we would never be together again, but she also said she would always love me. The pain I've been feeling is unlike anything I've experienced.

Until you start caring for yourself, and being good to yourself, expect more misery, and pain.

vanheart · Dec 1, 2011, 08:07 PM

Sounds like a fantasy. You wanted her to be that one.

You never really had a relationship with her, You got to get over that.

Time to exit those thoughts. There are lots of cool girls out there.

Start looking. Stop tripping.

Stop caring about her. Start rocking it.
Again...

uninvited1974 · Dec 2, 2011, 06:44 AM

It seems like you are really in love with this girl and that is understandable but if you love her like you said you do then the best thing to do is move on and spend some time with yourself as she is doing as well. Yes sometimes relationships can be upsetting, and sad but there comes a time when you need to find yourself and love yourself before starting a new relationship. How can you say you love her when you can't even take care of yourself right now. Listen just take time for yourself and don't rush into a new relationship until you feel you are right to have a new relationship.