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    Nov 13, 2011, 11:54 PM
    What are his true feelings... Is he playing games or he is genuine?
    I confessed to a guy that I have fallen for me. He said that he was over whelmed knowing that and he means it. But he said to me that he has never seen me in that way, he has always seen me like a friend's younger sister. As there is the rule never date your friend's sister, ex or mom.

    However he also said that... if I would have not been a friend's sister and met him in a party like a stranger, he would have definitely fallen for me.

    He even said that he doesn't wants to ruin the cute equation we have because of this proposal.

    So I was zapped as this was not a normal rejection. He gave so many excuses and justifications... I would have been more happy if he would have just said he doesn't likes me and never thought of me like that. But with this answer I am confused.

    * We were in a little flirtatious relationship... I thought he has a liking for me !
    After this chapter he has been over sweet to me and all this confuses me.

    Is he playing any sort of games with me ?
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    Nov 14, 2011, 01:35 PM
    No its no game, he is trying to ease the rejection for you. Over compensating. He cares, but doesn't love. Take him at his word, and appreciate his care for your feelings, and don't be confused by false hope.
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    Nov 14, 2011, 06:54 PM
    No, he is just being a friend and being nice. He is not playing any games, he straight up told you (nicely) that he doesn't want anything romantic with you, so you are going to have to respect that decision and move on.
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    Nov 16, 2011, 12:58 AM
    Need some PRACTICAL tips on how to move on..
    Things that have helped you in past.. :)
    Something practical...

    Thanks in advance!
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    Nov 16, 2011, 06:11 AM
    Go out with friends, concentrate on work, stay close to family, take up a new hobby, buy new clothes... Different things work for different people. But socialising is a must. And don't jump into a new relationship quickly!

    How long were you together?

    X Dani
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    Nov 16, 2011, 01:40 PM
    Read the stickies here about No Contact, and moving on.
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