[kippp]

I let my girlfriend move in a year ago. I knew before she moved in that she cheated on her last 2 boyfriends with her ex husband. She told me when we were still friends. She does talk about him quite a bit. They have 3 kids together but they are grown now.They were married for 20 years. And have been divorced for 7 years.

I basically put more into the relationship than she does. Lately I was thinking if he was to initiate something if she would do it. We had a fight and she told me she can't be with someone who doesn't trust her. I don't know why but it bothers me more now and with the information I have about her past 2 boyfriends it's hard to be so trusting. She was going to move out but none of her family her ex husband or daughters wanted to help her.

2 days later she was saying she wants to be with me and loves me. I pay all the bills by the way. I'm not saying she doesn't love me but she's stuck in the past. I was wondering could her wanting to stay together just be convenient. Do I have trust issues or am I thinking clearly.

[mmresd]

You either make the decision to start trusting her, or you break up. If you are not able to trust her then this relationship is over, if you think you will and you are wanting to try it even though there is the possibility she won't be able to say no to her ex-husband, then go for it.

[talaniman]

You knew the deal before you went for it so no more excuses. While I think she is stuck with you, you do have some issues with trusting her fully. All of these things make for a need to talk it out and resolve them, or let her go.

If she had someplace to go she would be gone, seeing as she has no bills to pay, and its just her. What's up with all that?

[majrivebroos]

If you can't trust her let her go and keep going forward with your live.It's not a healthy situation for neither one of you.And remember that there are plenty of fish on the pond.Good luck.