[tinaaaalexis]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 6 months. We're perfect together. We see each other whenever we can (even though it's not too often anymore because we both work and have school), we never fight, and we're both in love with each other.

But something happened last Friday (long story) and the next day he told me he needed time to think, but that everything would be okay. Then we started talking again the next day, but I knew things were different. It wasn't how it usually was.

Then yesterday before work, he told me he'd come over when I got out. He showed up in front of my house, and told me to come to the car, so I did. We hugged and he started tearing up. I was so scared! Then he told me he thinks we should go on a break because he needs time to get his life together. He always had a lot to handle with money, work, and school and stuff. He says he wants to get his life together because he feels like he hasn't been himself lately. This is around the time his grandma died and her birthday is next month so he's always down this time of year.

We literally sat in his car for 2 hours, crying and talking. I was crying my eyes out. I love him so much and I'm scared that we will never be back together like normal. I can't even imagine my life without him. He said that it won't be like that, but I can't help but think that.

This is both of our first serious relationship, so we don't even exactly know what being on a break means. I just know that when other people go on breaks, it usually means the relationship is over or close to being over. I'm so scared :(

[mmresd]

Normally, that is what it means, but not always. Keep your head up and support him if you can. Stay away to provide him the space he is asking you for, because he clearly is in great need of it. Whether you two get back together or not no one knows, however I would hope for the best and plan for the worse. Get ready to accept a break up, but don't accept it just yet, give it some time and see where things go.

Just a little advice though... the phrase that says something about you not being able to live without him, that is a sickness named codependancy, you are stepping in very dangerous territory there. It is OK to love someone, and it is OK to always appreciate and cherish their company, but for their company to be a requirement to your happiness, that is NOT OK.

[talaniman]

As much as it hurts, accept he does need some space, and give it to him whether he comes back or not.

Hope for the best, but plan for the worst. Go back to what you were doing before you got with him, and for now just wait and see what he does next. Break up/breaks suck, because its hard to deal with them emotionally. Over time, it gets better if you are busy doing your own thing, and not sitting on a pity pot, feeling sorry for yourself.

Still sucks, but its something we all go through, and learn to deal with. So will you, so good luck.

[yayimnewhere]

Well, he still has emotions attached to you! That's a great thing!
If he was indifferent, that is when you should be worried.
Sadly, these breaks do often lead to breakups. All you can do, is try to really think why he needs to break, is there something about you that is smothering him?
When the break finishes try to be distant from him, it may not work but I think that when people start breaks its because they need to get away, so when they come back, don't carry on like nothing happened. Recognise that you need to be more distant.
I made this mistake, and I lost the girl of my dreams, hopefully not forever though!
So good luck!!

[winnie_winnie]

There is a few elements to this story...
1- My boyfriends ex has just come back from traveling, they were together for 8 years and split whilst she was traveling. He wants to remain friends.
2-He has been in a bit of a mood the past 2 weeks. Lasy week I tried to talk to him about it. He said that he needs some time to sort his head out but we are still together and should speak to each other as normal. I did this whilst going through hell as I did not know where I stood.
I meet up with him a few days later and told him I could not contuine with him until I knew things were OK. He said they were and he was thinking too much about the future. The reason why he said that is because he is from Germany and wants to move home one day, did this time to sort his head out mean he was working out whether he would ask me to go with him? I feel I can not go back to normal and I don't know how to sort my own head out.