[Anatolians]

Story is long. I have been with this girl 4 years living together 2 years. One day she left me out of blue. I didn't go after her but I was looking for an explanation but realized she was so defensive and didn't want to speak and just saying that I have to think about myself sorry.

Then a week later she was flirting with a new guy. Once I realized there is someone else in the picture I cut the all contact and sent her my best wishes.

After 6 months she was pregnant from this guy. She is still not married but had a baby recently. On the e-mail she says the same thing and telling me that she was in love with me although she never said "I love you " while we were together. She is still looking our pictures and she is sorry for the way she chose the end. She also says last year she was dreaming about me quite often. Kind of blaming the guy that she rushed all because of him which was stupid she says.

Wanted to phone me sometime but scared to call me. She also says the reason for break up wasn't him. She sent me couple of e-mails and texts like "hope you don t hate me etc." every 2-3 months after break up. I respond the one of them by saying it is OK and it is not fair to him you writing me and I don't feel comfortable being in contact with you (she was pregnant that time) and ignored the other e-mails. She is still with this guy and states that she is happy with her decision at the moment.

To be honest I am OK with it now and not holding grudge but don't want to involve with her after this stage. It was very difficult that time to ditched away like this after 4 years without an explanation or warning. I didn't have a opportunity to say something to her that time. Although I tried but she shut me down really strictly so I walked away.

I was her first boyfriend by the way. She always said she hates the fact that I had girlfriend before her.


Have you been in a similar situation what are your thoughts it seems it is still affecting me in same way. How to deal with this.

Sorry for the novel.. Just needed to take out..

[BK201]

I was in a similar situation. Only difference is, it was her ex. I stopped contacts, wished her good luck, no grudge. Anyway, after months she started buzzing me, texts, if I still like her, how she realizes that she has made a mistake etc etc. I told her, I have clearly moved on, that I don't want to go back to her, that I can give my shoulders to her as a friend is she is really distressed, and nothing more than that. She disappeared after that. :D
You are on the right track, now don't turn back

[talaniman]

I think you keep ignoring her, or send those emails to spam. That's what I would do.

[vanheart]

That's the beauty of NC.

Removes any & all drama. For good.

Now on to bigger & better things...

Let her deal with her decisions. Without you.

Do what you've been doing.

Honestly, when someone dumps you like that, gets with another guy after a week, has his baby, then wants to cry on your shoulder about it.
C'mon.

Makes you want girls that aren't like that. Huh?

NC, buddy.

[mmresd]

Take it out as much as you want, that is one of the great gifts that this site offers.

As far as your problem goes, change your information and concentrate on your relationship, change phones, change emails, block her from other social networks. This girl is trouble, she has made mistakes in her life and it seems as she misses you because her relationship with her baby's daddy is decaying. Stop talking to her.

[vanheart]

Stick with your plan.
Don't let this email trip you out.

I got a few from my ex, trying to bait me. I didn't cave. NC.
I knew by then it was over. Don't let her suck you back in.

Just don't respond. Block her.
If not digitally, mentally.

Here's something to consider:
She dumped you, got pregnant with someone else.

I would be upset too. For the nerve to contact you.
How dare she? Screw that.

Oh well, tomorrows another day.

Now you know what emails are important.