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PinkyD2011 · Oct 24, 2011, 03:22 PM

I still love my ex boyfriend, see after we split we both moved on, we were both in new relationships I was finally getting over him. Me and my new partner split so I went on a night out with my cousin and her boyfriend who is best mates with my ex, well anyway we met up with my ex and his mate, it was a good but awkward night, first we never spoke to each other, then he ask his mate to ask me if he could sit next to me. Well I agreed, one thing led to another we then went for a walk on the beach which ended in us having intercourse. And bang I find myself in love with him all over again... Thing is he told me to give him some time as he just split up with his girl, now I don't know what to do? Its now been about 4 days after and am still thinking 'have I been used' or should I give him more time and wait for him to get in touch with me ? Hmm :/ if anyone can give me some advise I would be grateful :) x

vanheart · Oct 24, 2011, 03:50 PM

"have I been used"

That's up to you. You are in control of your decisions.

You made the decision to be with him, break up with him, get involved with someone else.
Then when that didn't work, get back with him. Have sex.

Stop playing games. If you want to have fun, that's one thing.

Why did you break up? or more importantly. Why did you get with him from the get go? How long were you together?

Maybe just being single is what you need until you figure it out.

Take a chill pill.

talaniman · Oct 24, 2011, 03:52 PM

I think you are still in the warm glow of good unexpected sex, and no you weren't used since you agreed to it.

So now all those old feelings have come back, and you are eager to get it on again, but you are having a hard time waiting for him now.

Wait until the glow fades, and the dust settles on your feelings, and then maybe you will see that alcohol, a beach, and good sex, may not be reason enough to try this again.

Nowhere in your post was their given a reason for the break up, or if those reasons were resolved by you both. Until you do that, all you have was SEX on the beach, and a warm glow.

mmresd · Oct 24, 2011, 06:12 PM

Let your feelings die down for a little bit, irrational and wild outdoor sex is awesome and I would instantly fall in love with anyone if I did that. But is not love, is just enjoyment. Let it die down and then think about what you want. Don't make any rushed decisions.