[Epsilonz]

Just today my girlfriend of 4 months told me that she needs a break from the relationship and take two steps back into being friends. Our relationship has been perfect no fights or quarrels. I asked if I have changed, she told me that its not me, I haven't changed, there's nothing I've done wrong and it was the truth. Asked her why she said for a week or so till now she felt empty inside, we spend lots of time together. There's times what she's with me she feels that we are really good friends and times when I'm her boyfriend. Yesterday night she said she broke down and started crying because she was confused about her feelings towards me, a "gut" feeling. I accepted her request for a break and she went home.

As for now I have no clue what to do. Should I text/call her? Casually like what have you been up too? Should I ignore her and give her space? If so how? Before I went out with her, we were good friends for about a year. We have classes together, and eat out lunches together with our group of close friends, how should I deal with her at school if we were taking a break? I don't want her to get comfortable with me as a friend, and forget about what happened, but I also don't want to completely ignore all the connections I have with her and our friends.

Please enlighten me.

[JoeCanada76]

Four months is not really long enough to form a strong relationship.

Asking for a break already, maybe she just feels more like friends with you.

Letting you down easily so to speak.

Many others will tell you here, that a break means that you have no contact with each other.

At the same time you said a lot of your friends get together. So it is kind of hard in that aspect because you do not want to ignore your social circle of friends.

What were the conditions or thoughts about what a break means to her? Just let her be for now.
No texts and no phone calls for now.

[Epsilonz]

How long would a break usually last? Are there clues she's ready to talk? Cause I don't want to be put on hold for too long, id need to take initiative at some point if so.

What if she decides to break up? Any suggestions to what actions I should take?

[talaniman]

Sorry guy, your feelings may not have changed, but hers did. She would rather be your friend, rather than your girl friend. She may never want to talk of being your girl friend again. Who can know the future?

But the only way to do that is to go back to the friends you were, and more than likely you can't right now, not emotionally, until you accept that things didn't work out like you wanted, and you have to focus elsewhere, on other things while you get over her.

You must make adjustments for yourself, and live with the changes life has thrown at you.

It suck all right, no argument there, but trying to regain what you lost will make you even more confused, and miserable.

[vanheart]

Don't wait for her. Or beg. Force her.

She has already said her peace, honestly. She doesn't want a romantic relationship.
That's her gut.

So be it. Happens all the time.

Start living like before you met her, but better.
Stay free & open to fun.

The best thing you can do is move on. NC.
Live well without her.

[mmresd]

Do NOT contact her, move on, consider this a break up. Sticking around is only going to end up hurting you in the long run.