[rskprk]

HI guys
I am in relationship with my girlfriend for 2 years and 3 months. But before this relation started we know each other for 8 years, I also know her parents and her parents also know me. Before we started our relation I used to go her home, talk with her father sister mother very freely and also they used to talk with me. Our relation as girlfriend boyfriend started after she told me she thinks about me in that way. At that time I told her I also think about you in same way and after that day we introduced each others as girlfriend and boyfriend to our friends ans relatives.

There was now animus from her parents as I am from different caste. But she was firm on her decision. I was student of CA Final at that time and was facing negative results in exam but all the time when I was facing such negative results she was with me and given very strong support which I can say was more than support given by my parents. When I got cleared and become Chartered Accountant after two years of our relationship that date was the date when we first told our feelings to each other two years before. Hence she told it was very nice gift for her that I cleared on the day of proposal.

We were very happy. After that I told my parents, they are agree and happy for me to get such a nice girl. I am less expressive and hence do not express my love toward her. But it is not like that I do not express at all. I can say that I was not able to express love as many times she was expecting though she knows how I love her. She have also told me that she know how badly I love her. But from past 20 days she is saying we are not made for each other and we should go ahead further. But after this she also messages me that she is sorry and doesn't mean like that and don't think on whatever she spoke. 3 days before she messaged me that"my full and final words are that you should leave me and find another girl for myself".

On having talk with her on this topic she told me that she is getting love as she expects from another hence don't want to be with me. She told me that after meeting that other guy she feels why her to be husband-that is me- is not like that other guy. She also told me that she is not going to get marry with that other guy as he is of 50crossed age. But she also told me that she is not going to marry me as I am not that much romantic. She expects the expression of love toward her only in the way she wants. Come on, its not like this that if I am not expressing the love in the ways she wants that doesn't mean I am not at all romantic.

I have different ways of expressing my love. I have pencil sketched her and given it to her, I care about her a lot and she also know that even she had told me many times that it is very nice that I care for her so much. And many other things. It is not like that I am not at all expressing in the way she wants but not so much of times she wants. And this was done by the other guy daily.

So she feels that how unromantic I am. And now the problem is that she daily says lets leave each other and after that she also says she can't leave me if I am not enough strong after leaving her and after some time messages "sorry she doesn't mean to say like that", again on the next day same things happen, but two days before she told me that after meeting that other guy she feels negative for me but if she doesn't meet him she is OK with me, and she don't want to play with my emotions and hence asking to leave her.

But again after that say"dear you know I am not so selfish and bad girl please forgive me, we will remain together forever" This is going on daily without fail. I think she is confused as she is busy in studies of MD and these things are happening at this moment only. I have also told her that "Please don't think about any other thing right now and concentrate on her studies". On this she said "know you are my strength" but on next day again the circle starts.

Please tell me what should I do. I love her like anything and I am also not able to concentrate because of this matter on my work.

[talaniman]

Do not allow her to play with your head. I think she is trying to make you show more affection, and give her more attention. Be aware though that you don't start something you don't intend to keep up.

Frankly though, I think it's a mistake to let her lead you in circles like this, and I would be tempted greatly to tell her to make up her mind, or leave you alone, and as long as she was dating someone else, sorry, I would leave her completely alone.

When you mentioned differing castes, and her family not being cool with things going further, maybe she wants you to fight for her to her parents, I don't know, but I do know you deserve to know the straight truth of things or stop wasting your time with her games, drama, and confusion.

[vanheart]

Don't let her flip-flop, while you cry the blues.
That's degrading.

Regardless of her family & what direction you thought. She's not for you.

At least right now. I would date some other girls.

Here's the thing:
If she isn't in, then no more time wasted on your part.
Stop begging.

Maybe, take a break. Focus on other stuff.