[JohnDoh123]

I've been with my girlfriend for a little over a year and a half, and we wanted to move in with each other at school. She then changed her mind because she said that she wouldn't make any friends living with me off campus. Between now and sept. she has changed her mind about 4 times because she continues to have issues with her roommate. Since my girlfirend and I have met we would spend almost all our time with each other between school and work. I also feel like I go out of my way to spend extra time with her even when its inconvinent, but that's okay because I love seeing her. Now she's says last night that I'm controlling because I make her feel guilty about stuff, also I need to understand that when I'm around all the time its harder for her to make friends with the guys upstairs, or the girls accros the hall (I'm already friends with all those people and so is she so that part confuses me) I feel like she wants to just get out of the relationship but is scared to say. She tells me that she loves me, but sometimes I'm unsure, and others I am, I'm scared that she's not in love with me but the idea of a relationship. Does she want to break up with me.

[adam_89]

She might want to. It is hard saying. You need to set down and talk to her and find out how she really feels. That is the only way you are going to find out. Sometimes truth hurts, but sometimes it is what we need.

[I wish]

A break up is inevitable if that's what she wants. Instead of worrying about that, start by backing off.

Sounds like you're in a very suffocating relationship because you spend so much time together. Focus on doing your own thing and building your own life while spending quality time together and enjoying each other's company.

Focus on your studies.

[artlady]

Communication is the key to a healthy relationship.
Ask her what she wants from you as a boyfriend and ask her to be specific.
You sound as if you might be a bit clingy and that is never an attractive or welcome trait.
Talk it out!

[canefan1012]

JohnDoh123,

What everyone above me has said is true. It seems like the time spent between the two of you doesn't allow for either of you to grow as individuals and it seems she's the one that is going through it more.

I agree with what "I wish" said about doing your part in backing off somewhat so she takes notice and you create some independence in the "worst case" scenario.

I was in a similar situation where things just changed from my ex girlfriend's side and as much I as tried to have a conversation about it, she just never gave a reason why felt that way, just that she did.

Hope things work out for you

[j_ely823]

Hey, Im just curious, what school do you go to and how old are you?

[talaniman]

She isn't ready to live with you, or be spending so much time together. That's very clear by her actions and reactions. You really are to close to the problem to see she wants freedom of choice, so give it to her, and read my signature. Then back off the living together.