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Jv2012 · Oct 17, 2011, 12:32 PM

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and 8 months. We've had a bunch of trust issues because he had brought up before that he wanted to seek other girls so I felt insecure but we are currently still together. The website he looks at has a bunch of naked girls with huge butts.. Which seems really fake to me. But he looks at it and it definitely bothers me. He promised me before he would stop but I saw on his computer that he still looked at it. He said I wasn't trusting him, but he did it behind my back so was I just being played thinking he actually kept his promise? We now made another promise but I don't know how far that will go. I don't know what to do.. Any suggestions?

talaniman · Oct 17, 2011, 03:08 PM

How old are you? Do you live together, or have kids together?

Jv2012 · Oct 18, 2011, 10:34 AM

I'm 18 and we don't live together or have kids

talaniman · Oct 18, 2011, 11:08 AM

Enjoy your time together, and don't worry about what he does when he is not with you. 18 year old guys can't help butt look, and be drawn to images of females.

Act like a girl friend, not a wife, or mother. It does you little good trying to hold him to promises he may want to keep, but can't.

This is more about YOUR insecurities, and what you do about them, than what he is doing. I mean how long should he put up with an insecure female trying to control him from afar?

Dating should be fun, at 18, not about some images, or what your guy is doing in private.

vanheart · Oct 18, 2011, 05:23 PM

"because he had brought up before that he wanted to seek other girls"
At least he was honest.
Did you understand that one?

You should have the same thoughts. Date. Keep your life open.

Not get serious. For now. No need to hurry love.

Jv2012 · Nov 28, 2011, 09:29 PM

I'm having a hard time trusting my boyfriend because of a past event of him hiding things behind my back. It made me feel very uneasy about things and I was wondering about ways to feel secure about everything again. I always find myself thinking about what had happened and it makes me feel depressed. But, my boyfriend and I are very loving to each other now after the whole incident. I just can't seem to let what happened go. Anyone know a way to make me feel okay and move on?

geminichick · Nov 28, 2011, 09:57 PM

Does your boyfriend know you feel this way? If he doesn't, have you tried talking with him about it. You both may be loving with each other but it sounds like what he hid from you put a strain on your relationship. A lot of healing needs to take place for you. Things that you need to work through. Especially trust issues? I really would try talking to him.

Jv2012 · Nov 28, 2011, 10:01 PM

I have talked to him, many times. But I think it irritates him because I bring it up a lot, only because it bothers me..
He always says to just trust him and that he isn't who he was meaning what he did.

talaniman · Nov 28, 2011, 11:52 PM

Maybe you are making to big a deal of his habits and should stop it.