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    Oct 11, 2011, 01:27 PM
    One sided love?
    What to do when you are interested in someone,but he doesn't care... mostly ignore your texts,not value your friendship.you are constantly chasing him,but he ignores you all da time:(
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    Oct 11, 2011, 01:52 PM
    My advice is to walk away, but I know that is harder said then done. I am in a similar situation and constantly feel unloved and not worthy. I am aware I need to walk away, you can not change a person and I know there is no future in this type of situation. I think it is down to my own insecurities something that I am working on cause I need and deserve better and so do you!! There are men out there who will treat you how you want to be treated, you just have to fond them, Good luck :)
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    Oct 12, 2011, 04:29 AM
    See,he is ma friend,not much good,but we often do a conversation on studies.He is my relative also.I sometimes find he ignores me,but he also not let me to go out of friendship.If I ignores him too,and make him feel that he is just a friend,if he doesnot care,then me too,will this attitude do help?
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    Oct 12, 2011, 11:54 AM
    Will ignoring him do miracles?
    He is my friend, and we often talk about our studies. He is also my relative. Sometimes he ignores me, but at least he doesn't seem to want to lose me as a friend. If I ignore him too and make him feel that he is just a friend, will this attitude help our relationship go to a new level?
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    Oct 12, 2011, 02:41 PM
    Well you said he is your relitive? That may cause a problem if you have a crush on your relitive. And it depends on the guys personality, you obviously know more about him then me, but it could be possible that he is ignoring you because he likes you? And if you're ignoring him as well, neither of you will know about you're true feelings for each other. Hope this helps!
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    Oct 12, 2011, 05:00 PM
    How old are you both, and how are you related. Are we talking friends relationship here, or love relationship??
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    Oct 13, 2011, 12:09 PM
    19 years old,we are friends,but I wish to step ahead... I don't know about his feelings,first I want to strengthen our friendship,I want to be his close friend .Actually if I text him fve times,he replies only once and do formal chat,if I ask why are you not replying,he says I don't use phone much.. back to four months,he didn't ignore me.I came to know that he broke up with her girl.totally confusd what to do,if I keep chasing him,it hurts myself respect,he is my only friend in male and I am not a bold girl and I never ever experienced that before.
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    Oct 13, 2011, 12:11 PM
    Whats his relations to you???
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    Oct 13, 2011, 01:30 PM
    He is my second cuzn.son of my mom's first cuzn.
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    Oct 14, 2011, 11:52 AM
    Help plzz!!
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    Oct 14, 2011, 01:32 PM
    I highly suggest you do NOT think romance is something to pursue, or that you spend so much time with him.

    You may be obsessed and have very strong feelings, but see him as family, and treat him that way. Pushing more for his time and attention is NOT healthy, and you should turn your attentions to better things other than him.

    Such as your own group of friends and activities that you enjoy. Do this, and put this obsession behind you.
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    Oct 15, 2011, 02:27 AM
    Ok,thanks,going to act:(

    And suggest me one thing more, Do not I try to contact him anymore? No forwarding texts at all?
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    Oct 15, 2011, 07:34 AM
    He is already not responding according to what you have written, so what would be the point in continuing those efforts?

    Until you have gotten to the point you realize he has his own life, and you are not a big part of it, I would hope you spend a LOT more time doing other things, that don't include him. That's not forever, but until you have a life that makes you happy without him in it as an object of affection.

    but he doesn't care... mostly ignore your texts,not value your friendship.you are constantly chasing him,but he ignores you all da time
    You leave them alone is what you do. No more forwarding of texts. You just don't chase someone who doesn't care, and ignores you.
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    Oct 16, 2011, 07:14 AM
    Thanks a lot,now I can act upon your advice with a believe
    That I am doing right and just:)

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