[decemberzchild]

I'm 21, and sometimes I get really frustrated with myself since I've never had a date or anything, much less a boyfriend. I'm smart, confident, fun, attractive, and skinny. I dress well, I hold conversations well with people, and everyone who's ever met me has thought of me as very ambitious, fun, passionate, and pretty. Everyone who knows me says I have a great personality and am a really good friend. I go to an Ivy League school in the States, so I know I am very intelligent. But I don't know why I still haven't dated anyone or ever been asked out. Can someone explain this to me? I'd really like to know. I'm graduating college in a few months, and just desperately confused about my situation. I've come up with multiple reasons, such as guys getting intimidated by my life goals (true story), I might seem high maintenance because I am incredibly well dressed to the nines, or guys just assume I have a boyfriend because I simply have a lot of guy friends surrounding me all the time or because of all the qualities I possess.

But would someone please help me? I just want to date ONE GUY before I graduate from college, and at this rate, it seems like nothing's ever going to happen. I'm sick of being relegated from potential date-able material to a friend.

[lovelyrose1026]

The right guy is out there for you. I know it might be hard but if you haven't found anyone yet then the could never measure up to your wonderful personality. Trust me it will be hard but when you find him it will be worth it.

[Fr_Chuck]

Why do guys you just meet, that may ask you out, know your goals and life plans ? When I was younger and asking girls out, it was shortly after we meet and I may or may not even know their names.

Next where are you meeting or trying to meet guys at ?

To be honest you bragged on yourself so much in your post, I doubt I would ask you out since you sound sort of caught up with yourself.

Next why are you waiting to be "asked out" why are you not asking someone out if you want to date.

[decemberzchild]

I don't know how to edit, but to answer Fr Chuck's question, what I'm saying is these qualities are things my friends tell me. Specifically, these responses are from close friends I've made via academics and activities at my school. Technically, I personally wouldn't use those terms on myself, but I'm giving the terms my friends use to describe me. (I personally would say I'm open-minded and work hard academically.)

My guy friends are the ones who know my life goals and plans, not "date-able" guys. Those I've never ran into, hence why I'm asking now.

I've asked out two people in the past, and it turned out the first guy wanted to get into my pants, and the second one told me I wasn't good enough because of my race. Call me scarred, but I stopped because I didn't want that happening again. I come from a very conservative background where arranged marriages are still the norm, even though my parents are very Westernised, so they want me to go find the right person. But I despair of it.

[Wondergirl]

I'm reading this thread with great interest and maybe can throw in some ideas, but first I have to ask some questions.

I'm guessing you are Asian, maybe Indian?

Generally, where is your school located?

What are date-able guys?