[Yazziieb]

Me and my Boyfriend were together for 9 months we found out I was pregnant 4 months into the relationship I am 16 and so is he , he seemed excited and happy at first and we spent all our time together he would do anything for me and we would talk everyday but then this changed after about 7 months it seemed like he just wanted to meet up with me to have sex because that is all we did and he stopped calling me and visiting me and didn't come to 3 of my hospital appointments and I would always have to contact him first he hasn't brought anything for the baby but he buys himself video games , he doesn't care about me anymore and last week he said he only acted happy about the baby to make himself feel better and that he can do better than me and that I should have had an abortion I am now 6 months pregnant and I am really upset at the way he has been treating me we have not spoke since he said that but just before he said all of that he was telling me how much he loved me but now I'm wondering if he was only saying that stuff just for sex.

[lostgirl22]

I got pregnant with my daughter when I was 17 and ended up doing it all alone because her father also backed out. The thing is that he may have said those things because he wanted sex or he also could have at the moment believed he trully did. Pregnancy is something that is hard for a married couple to deal with so the stress of being a teen parent is really hard. Unfortunately this is one that you may have to just let take its course and hope that he tries to be a good father and worry less how he will feel about you. This will be so hard because right now you are probably really emotional. I hope it ends better for you then it did for me, but if it does not then just think that you need to be the best mother that you can be and make the best choices for you and the baby, that is what is important now.

[talaniman]

Let him go for now, as it no longer matters what he wants, or did, or whether he lied or not. You must think like a future mother and any conversation not about the babies future, is irrelevant. No more sex with him though, and don't be swayed by words, just actions.

Its hard on you BOTH, being young, unprepared, and inexperienced. No doubt while the sex was fun, he has to face the consequences of his actions, and no doubt that's scary for him, but no excuse for lying, and still having sex for his own reasons.

Best to leave him alone until his responsibilities are clear, and he has to meet them. Either voluntary, or by the court. Don't chase the boy though, because he has to man up without you, or your body.

What do you expect from a young boy? Don't be mad at him for saying I love you's to get sex from you, because you listened, and gave it to him. YOU believed him, after 5 months. Maybe he believed what he said when it was free and easy with no responsibilities that come with it, but now he may just be being cruel because he blames you for causing this to happen.

He is wrong! It was both of you.