[Broken_Heart11]

I would like you to explain my situation.. I am still disappointed.. the girl I mentioned in my two previous questions is still haunting me every single day of my life.. After she broke my heart after returning to her home country, she tried to contact me many times, and she apologized, and she realized that it was not me who told her ex-online friend about our relationship.. she regretted what she did to me, so that she left that guy after she knew that her girlfriend who came with her to my country told her ex-online boyfriend.. After I refused her apology for every time she tried to chat with me, she started destroying her life by smoking and drinking and leaving her family house.. I could not stand that much longer, sometimes I tried to contact her only to relieve her, and to be frank, I am still in love with her, and she is too inside her..

Now, she is in a relationship with a guy from her country, and I could not stand that more, I disappeared from her for about one year, but she is in my heart, so that I feel depressed when I start thinking to make any relationship with any other girl. One day I dreamt that I got married to some girl, and I remembered her in the wedding, bursting into tears.. I really do not want to feel such feeling in reality.. She has recently sent me messages asking about me.. but I never replied though I love her so much..

My question: Is this love or complication? Is there any little hope to be together one day? And Should I reply to her messages even if she is in a relationship? Please tell me..

[talaniman]

I do remember your other posts, and am surprised you have not at least started to replace those old feelings with new ones through more activities, and experiences with others.

No doubt continuing to have some contact with her, however small has hindered your recovery. So they only thing complicating things is your failure to look forward for new things to make yourself happy, and not allowing yourself to enjoy anything but what you thought you had with her.

This is neither love, or complicated, but an inability to want more for yourself. Get busy with life my friend, its not that hard to be happy, but you have to want to.

Keep at it. It's a matter of time before you let go of what's making you sad, or confused. When you cannot find joy in what you are doing, its because you are holding on to misery.

[vanheart]

Complication? Yes.

Hope?
No.

You don't even really like this girl. Especially don't like the way she treats you, or really what she does.

Stay NC with her.
Stop obsessing. Have some fun.

"I really do not want to feel such feeling in reality"
You already feeling it. This is reality.

Don't be afraid of moving on.
If you do, the world is open.

The next chapter can be amazing without her to worry over.

This was a fling. A moment. There will be tons more.