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godgiven11 · Aug 31, 2011, 07:01 AM

I met this girl at my new job around 2 weeks ago now, started talking on Facebook and then eventually met up, straight away we got along and had awesome times together, then we said we'll start seeing each other but take it slowly, then one day I messaged her and just reassured her that she isn't a rebound to my ex girlfriend, and she is really perfect for me and I don't want to lose her, then she replied I've got some stuff going on at home, I've not long been out of a relationship and some other major personal issues which she has explained to me, but she said, when she's ready I'm all hers so I agreed to wait for her, because she means so much to me already. How do I react to this and deal with it, and does it seem like she really does want something to happen between us when she's ready?

Homegirl 50 · Aug 31, 2011, 08:12 AM

You are going to wait for her cause she means so much to you already? You guys have a history of 2 weeks!

Sounds to me like she is not that in to you and work place relationships are not the best. Leave her be and go on about your business.
This sounds like unnecessary drama. Much ado about nothing.

I wish · Aug 31, 2011, 08:20 AM

Two weeks might have been too quick to let her know about your feelings. Focus on getting to know her better and enjoying your time together. Worry about romance if things develop naturally. But two weeks is too quick to jump the gun.

talaniman · Sep 3, 2011, 05:59 PM

Sorry guy, you never wait for someone to make time for you, or give you attention. I get you like her but have some fun while you wait, and date others outside of work.

Personally I think you scared her off after only two weeks??

Kahani Punjab · Sep 3, 2011, 07:18 PM

I believe first that love or a relationship, whatever it is, is always two-sided, and what it 'means' to you, does not (always) mean to the other fellow. Moreover, the '2-week' time is nothing, in a relationship, not only from her, but also your point of view. Neither is it going to impact you much, I suppose, as far as my experience, and knowledge or romantic history and psychology is concerned, even as you 'will' reject my point, as a false notion of a 'indifferent fellow'. In a relationship, the very first days, one does not go deep into the person, and just is tempted or fascinated by the look, hairstyle, garments and make-up only, after which the height, stature, figure and other external aspects come, after which he notices other important things about he family, life style, studies/job etc. and the 'intimacy, matching and the like are always understood very late, and this is the most important point. Are you not overlooking this fact? Relax dear... There is someone else - more perfect for you - waiting for you, out! Somewhere, sometime, someday!

odinn7 · Sep 3, 2011, 08:59 PM

To me it seems like you got too pushy too fast with her. You told her she's perfect for you and you don't want to lose her... after 2 weeks. It sounds incredibly needy as well. Women do not like needy guys. I think you should back off a little and just let things go for a bit.

Kahani Punjab · Sep 4, 2011, 04:45 AM

Originally Posted by odinn7

... Women do not like needy guys. ....

Nobody, rather. Everyone needs a helpful person, not a needy one, even as the mores say 'so'. You need to make yourself such that she may say, "O this is the guy, I need the most. He is so jovial, helpful and yeah, one who provides good (or the best of all) company." And, make you so, that she may do anything, but leave you... No!