[deejurn]

I've lost my girlfriend at the age of 16. She passed away from leukemia when she was also 16. It has been extremely traumatic for me even though almost 2 years has passed since then. My counsellor said I've ptsd and through out the 2 years, I've been experiencing relapses after relapses. I couldn't help it... my friends and family are very supportive and concerned for me though... but it's not easy to push back the past. I get nightmares easily when I experience these relapses. I get also get rather temperamental as well. I've seek counselor's help. But it's not helping me to totally cure ptsd. What should I do?? :/:confused:

[cdad]

What you need to do is get over it. Man up and decide how you want your life to be. Living in the past is no way to make a future. Only you yourself can decide to take the steps needed to get past this. Its no longer about your girlfriend its about you. Was it terrible - yes. But this is most likely the first of many losses. Is this how you want to run your life? If every time you hit a crisis point you just dwell on it until others near you push away then your not going to live much of a life. You have memories and you can hold her in your heart forever but that doesn't mean you stop living. Everyone is different and everyone grieves different but there is a point you have to move on. Its not about forgetting nor is it about reliving the past. Its about moving forward.

Its your choice.

[DrBill100]

i've lost my girlfriend at the age of 16. she passed away from leukemia when she was also 16. it has been extremely traumatic for me even though almost 2 years has passed since then. my counsellor said I've ptsd and through out the 2 years, i've been experiencing relapses after relapses. i couldn't help it...my friends and family are very supportive and concerned for me though... but it's not easy to push back the past. i get nightmares easily when i experience these relapses. i get also get rather temperamental as well. i've seek counselor's help. but it's not helping me to totally cure ptsd. what should I do???? :/:confused:

PTSD is not a common diagnosis in relation to what would more commonly be considered grief therapy. I'm always concerned when psychiatric labels are attached to emotional disturbance unnecessarily. Nonetheless, your therapist should have a complete personal history that may justify a diagnosis. Or perhaps there's something you omitted.

Since you have previously committed to therapy and it isn't working you might consider looking for a different therapist utilizing a different approach--if it's not working, don't keep doing it.

I have no specific advice on PTSD as that diagnosis doesn't follow from the circumstances you describe.