[Loved up girl]

Long story:
Me and my boyfriend have been together about 10 months, and things moved really quick. We now spend every night at one of our houses. But we love it, and wouldn't change that. When we first got together he was so loving, and excellent, but as we got closer I found out lots about him, i.e he had been cheating and lying. He had been on dating websites, messaging my friends, doing things behind my back things no one would stand for! I was heartbroken, and always think about it!

I would never be unfaithful to him, or do anything like that. I worship him. After sorting it out he promised me he would delete this website, and never go on it, because I meant too much etc. After saying that, I caught him out 4 times being on it. When it got too much and we broke up after about 2 hours we sorted it, but he did it again. I was then at the point were I couldn't face being hurt again. I needed more than that, but he got upset etc, and ended up giving in. Now he promises me he doesn't go on it, but I always worry and wonder what else he does being my back.

I am very insecure person as I have been in terrible relationships, one being abusive and just need reassuring and caring for am just not getting it. I can't leave him, I love him, but he ain't passionate. We're 19, and when I ask him for a kiss and cuddle in bed, its like I have asked him loads, he moans he doesn't want to kiss, have sex, he won't touch me down there ( sorry for being in depth), and if he does wrong or I get upset and cry, he gets moody telling me I'm perfect and he's off home? He speaks to me and treats me horribly, no love. If I tell him, we argue, although I have told him plenty of times we don't do anything fun any more as a couple.

Don't say I need to leave him, as it isn't an option. We're made for each other and he's my world. I do everything for him, and I am so loving toward him its just the things Ive mentioned.

P.S I am always feeling down, and upset. I just want to feel loved and looked after, and I want him faithful thanks xxx



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[Wondergirl]

I'd feel down and upset too if he were my boyfriend.

What on earth are you getting out of this relationship?? I couldn't figure it out from your post.

[J_9]

Can I ask you why you would want to stay with someone like this?

There are so many red flags here I don't know where to begin. Tell him to take a hike and find someone who will treat you like the princess you are.

[Loved up girl]

I no I knew you would say this I am with him because I love him I have learnt to deal with a lot from my past relation ship our families get on etc its perfect and during day etc were great together its just when we argue and that or when I want a bit more loving don't get me wrong he has his moments he always tells me he lovees me I guess I just want some respect and loving :( not negatives all the time is this so much to ask? Xx

[J_9]

Honey, he's a cheater, a serial cheater. Time to move on.

[Loved up girl]

He says he doesn't any more it wasn't cheating he just did things behind my back :/ No I can't I love him :( x

[J_9]

He's not up to the task of loving and respecting you. He's not available for that.

In one post you say you love him and in the next post you say you can't love him.

Don't you think you deserve happiness? Don't you think you deserve to be treated better than this?

[Fr_Chuck]

OK, leaving is not a option.

Make it a open relationship he is allowed to date others and sleep with others, that solves the issue, since he is doing it anyway.

Heck perhaps allow him to bring them home and share

Set days for you to be with him, and days for him to be with others,

If you won't leave him, those are about your best choices

[Loved up girl]

What why would I do that :/ that's stupid he doesn't do this any more this isn't my problem guys it's the fact he is un loving and off with me! I just want protecting and shown am wanted

I haven't said I can't love him I I do love him he is my everything I agree I deserve more respect but this is the help I need how? X

[mystific]

You DON'T respect yourself, why the hell should he respect you? He's playing you for a fool.

He won't protect you, won't make you feel wanted, use you for his own needs, will continue doing whatever he wants behind your back and lie to you because...

Wait for it...


He doesn't love you.

And you won't change him.

So seeing as you won't leave him as that's obviously not an option because you're quite happy to be used and abused and lied to then I wish you a very happy sad life.

I've always wanted to know what its like being second best to everyone else.. let me know how it works out for you.

[Loved up girl]

I do respect myself. Actually and didn't allow the other relationship to carry on hence why I left, I don't lead a sad life I bet loadsa peple having problems in relationships

[jbots10]

So let me get this straight? He goes off and does all these things and you just keep running back? I have been in your situation and let me tell you, if I knew what I knew now I would start taking steps to get out of this or at least fix it for myself.

1. Stop being there for him every hour of every day. (Make him really value your time together, as much as it might hurt you it will do some good.)

2. Don't text,call,Facebook.. etc.. as much any more. Make him wonder what has gotten into you. If he really cares about you then he will come around and become more interested again.

3. Do you have friends? Start hanging out with them and get some you time, take a step back and look at this while not being apart of it.



I have been here, I am here now but I am finally learning. Your young and believe me when I say I know how it feels to love some one and not get anything back, but if not him then there would be someone there for you.

[talaniman]

Okay, I don't understand. How can you be with some one who lies, goes behind your back, and now doesn't fulfill your needs? What kind of sick love is that. Sounds like another terrible relationship with another guy who doesn't treat you like you want to.

You may love, worship, and do all you can, but he doesn't. That's not fair. You are stuck on someone that's not as stuck on you. He won't change. Sorry.