[confuzed8708]

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Ok, so Ive been with my man for 3 yrs now and I love him to death. We've had our ups and downs but, always work through the struggle. I'm such an outgoing person I love hanging out with my girls and just having fun. I'm 19 so I'm in the clubbing era.

Now the problem is that when we met he knew I was this outgoing girl who loves to party and he was fine with it up until we moved in together after 2yrs. So for a year now I been having to rely on him because he works full time while, I'm sort of a housewife just home all day making sure everything clean and done. I don't mind it because, I can see myself in the future like this. Its just when I want to do something or I'm invited some where I have to ask him and usually he says yeah.

But every time it seems like it bothers him but, won't admit it and makes me feel like I should just stay. I just want my space and its hard for me to tell him because, he's going to say I rather go out than stay home with him which is totally wrong because I love being with him, its just sometimes I want to go hang out without him. I feel like I'm missing out on my social life just don't know how to tell him without offending him.

He knows he can trust me. But yet it bothers him that I want to be out to have fun. I don't want to break up but, I really do miss my freedom. Also Ive tried telling him, and he acts like he gets it but, I feel he doesn't because its still the same. He's about to be 21 so I wouldn't want him to feel trapped. I want him to enjoy life and his youth so that when we have kids, we won't want the urge to be out because we never got the chance to.

Help??

[talaniman]

I think if you break the dependency, you will have more freedom. Sure you were a party girl, but when you moved in with a working guy, then you should be helping him build a life you both can enjoy. I mean what's wrong with you having a job, or school, and have time for a social life. You don't have kids.

Then you can be equals that share for the common good, and won't have to ask permission from your hard working sugar daddy when you want to enjoy yourself. Even party girls have to prepare for there own future, and be able to feed themselves or at least help their partners, since you have nothing else to do but party, don't you think?

Keeping your own place clean, and meals for you both is not a job if that's all you do. So why act like you did at home with your parents? And when you have kids, what make you think he will come home from work, and watch kids while you do your thing with your friends and have a good time? I doubt that seriously, and I think you know better yourself.

He is already showing you that resentments are building when you party after he has brought home the bacon, so please be an equal, and use this time to work as hard as he does for your future together, as there will be plenty of time later for a very happy social life.

Or else you will forever be asking permission to breath on your own. Then you will have your own resentments. If you were his hardworking equal, he might even listen, and take your feelings to heart. This relationship doesn't sound equal to me party girl.

[confuzed8708]

I noe being home isn't a job but he doesn't want me to work. I alrdy graduated hs and am going to start akool in da fall. I noe what you mean about working equally. Ders no problem der. And I noe its not about partying but I like to have fun and its nt like I want to go out evryday. Its honestly like evry other week. That's y I just don't get why I can't be e little free. Yea when we have kids I'm willing to giv it all up for my fam but rite now we don't. And wer still yung. Dats why I'm saying I don't want to grow up with the urge of wanting to go places I can't because I noe ill have more resposibility..

[talaniman]

Please lose the chat/text speak, as its really hard to understand. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...xt-566843.html

I don't know what you expect to happen since you can only do as you are told by your boss. That's what happens when you give someone the power to tell you what to do. Does it really matter about his attitude is when you ask to go out? As long as you are ALLOWED to, what's the problem?

He probably does what he does so you don't think its okay to ask to often. Then he doesn't have to say no, because you will be scared to ask. I will be honest, I don't approve of that kind of control, or dependence by anyone. But what works for you, works for you, but don't expect him to go along, and be happy with what you want. I guess there is little you can do but leave, if you can't talk, or don't like his program. I worry about your lack of input.

[Loved up girl]

Aw honey I understand completely maybe set a night every week were you have to both go out or do something with a mate till a certain time then you meet at home in bed and talk about your night :) it's a cut way to do it or even go out together with friends ull feel like ir socialising but whilst he is still happy do you get me. Unfortuntly relation ships and freedom don't really go