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DestinyRoot · Aug 7, 2011, 11:31 AM

Me and my girlfriend went out for 5 years, since high school. We did everything together. I bought her everything. Clothes, bags, a car, and supported her through everything. I helped her through school and everything. Her family does not really support her in any way so that's when she really depended on me for everything. I would pay for everything everywhere we go out since I have a decent paying job. I even drove her back and forth from her school an hour away every week so she didn't have to stay there over the weekends.

But right before her college graduation, she wanted a break. It has been 3 months since we broke up, and we have going back and forth on everything. She would text or call me occasionally because she wanted to see me but constantly reminds me that we are broken up.

I don't know what to do cause I sacrificed everything for her and I don't have many friends anymore always putting her first on my priorities. I tried going NC but it's so freaking hard!! I have nobody else to talk close to me, cause it seems nobody actually cares. I still have tons of stuff to pay for monthly, because of her and can't force her to pay for it cause she doesn't have a job yet, and her family cannot pay for it either.

I need help so badly!

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talaniman · Aug 7, 2011, 03:43 PM

Stop sacrificing and get a plan that starts with doing NC for real, as we all know how hard it is. You have a lot of rebuilding to do, and a whole life to get busy making for yourself.

Break ups suck, we all know that, and its hard to get our sh1t together after giving our heart and soul to someone, but that's was the problem before, you giving up EVERYTHING to make her happy, and nothing for yourself.

Time to do for YOURSELF. Get busy, and read the stickies HERE, and go for it!

Its supposed to be hard, and will be.

DestinyRoot · Aug 7, 2011, 04:41 PM

Problem is that if I go NC, she might be gone forever! She says she wants to be single for now, but how can she not realise what I have done for and what I gave up for her. She wants to be friends but how can we be friends if I'm still paying all the stuff for her. I feel like she left me at such a bad time. Right when she graduated after me essentially helping her through college..

talaniman · Aug 7, 2011, 05:06 PM

Harshness warning

So you kissed her butt to keep her and make her grateful?? How did that work for you??

Look you sound like a really nice guy, but you better walk away from her long enough to get your dignity, and self respect back. Sure it hurts, but she ain't coming back!

Don't look foolish trying. Sorry guy, but time to man up, and see more than the crack of her butt.

There is a valuable lesson to be learned, and give yourself time to figure out what it is. You could use some time away from her to get your head together, because right now you have life and BS all mixed up.

DestinyRoot · Aug 7, 2011, 07:17 PM

That's a very good point. I just don't get how some guys are complete *******s to their girlfriends and they are still together where as I did all this crap to deserve this.

talaniman · Aug 8, 2011, 10:25 AM

Those a******s don't have healthy, happy relationships, so stop seeing that as a good model. You want a happy healthy relationship, then it starts with TWO happy healthy adults.

That's your focus right now. To make yourself a happy, healthy adult, so you can attract another happy, healthy adult.

DestinyRoot · Aug 8, 2011, 10:38 AM

Hey thanks for advice, it's hard to fight the urges to go NC, especially when she starts texting and calling. I guess I just need to keep talking to u guys whenever the urges come up. It's so hard! Whenever I'm trying to read the stickies on here it's keeps popping up with a oops page cannot be viewed.