HARSHNESS WARNING--THIS IS GOING TO BE BLUNT AND HARSH!!!!
But please stop and think.
He stopped going out in clubs with me, or having coffee somewhere where there are people that know us so we see each other only in the hotels rooms and sleep over.
This is what this man thinks of you.
You aren't a girlfriend. You are a toy to be used when he desires. You are a possession.
I would almost bet that you are the only person who thinks he has been seeing you since the clandestine meetings began. I think he is finding a bride and playing with you when it suits him.
You haven't been good enough to marry and now you aren't even good enough to be seen in public with him. Is that really the type of relationship you want? Do you value yourself so little that you allow yourself to be used for his gratification and nothing else?
If I were with you right now, I would hold up a mirror and ask you if the woman looking back at you deserved to be treated the way you are being treated by this man. What did she do to be used and tossed aside? Why are you allowing it to happen?
If I could, I would tell this male what I think of him and his beliefs making certain he never even thought about you again without feeling ashamed of himself, but I can't. I can try to convince you that you are worth so much more than what you are getting, but it doesn't matter what I say if you don't believe it inside yourself.
If you value yourself, let him go. Don't be there if he calls. Go out and live your life.