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matthew429 · Jul 24, 2011, 08:54 AM

I work with someone and I have fallen head over heels in love with him

I can't stop thinking about him, I get jealous when he speaks to other people, I can't eat because the thought of not being with him makes me feel sick, I have never felt like this before and I'm 25, what's going on.

He says he is straight but I given him oral sex once, he was drunk though and says he can't remember, he doesn't mind but he says he is def not gay.

We spend loads of time together as we have an amazing friendship, he spoons me every now and then and I quite often stay over at his house.

I hate feeling heart broken and sick all the time and I don't know what to do, HELP ME, how do I move on and get over this.

JoeCanada76 · Jul 24, 2011, 09:03 AM

Sounds like he is sending you mixed messages. It is possible that he is bi, or just experimenting but being jealous about him talking to others especially considering your truly not in a relationship. Have you expressed your feeling before to this person and what do you think the reaction would be? Be honest, but try not to be jealous or obsession because that will scare any possible relationship with somebody away especially if this person just thinks of you as a friend, with some benefits?

matthew429 · Jul 24, 2011, 09:45 AM

Hi, I have told him I really like him I like him quite a few times and he just kind of laughs it off, I don't want it to go any further as I'm hurting so much already and it will just get worse, I just wish I could get him out of my head, the prob is I see him all the time as well as we work closely togther, I'm officially screwed

digvijaysingh90 · Jul 24, 2011, 01:12 PM

Exactly... stop hurting yourself over him... trust god... he has a plan for you... love comes to you when you least expect it to... I'm in love with a straight guy... he dsnt feel ANYTHING sexual towards a guy... except for me... but the sex in OUR case is derived from the love we share... just because we are crazy in love... he had never kissed or even THOUGHT about a guy before me... but I think that our case is very different... like very rare... but I'm not sure if it's the same in your case... but it happened when I least expected it.. I didn't even TRY to hit on him because I thought its not possible... so that's what I'm saying... trust god.. he knows what's best for you... and just... go with the flow... just stop trying very hard... Good Luck!

matthew429 · Jul 24, 2011, 02:29 PM

Thanks, really felt good reading this, I should send him this link, perhaps he will take your advise :)

talaniman · Jul 24, 2011, 04:50 PM

I think you should stop teasing yourself, and letting false hope confuse you, and allow someone to play with your feelings this way. He knows what you want, and what you feel, yet he teases you with his actions.

You need to confront his actions, and find out where he stands, while sober. Be direct. Don't be brushed aside by a laugh, you deserve to know what's going on in his head, so you can get your own together.