[antiyou]

Hello.

I've a big problem... I cried a lot about it so I decided to write a message and get a tip.

My boyfriend and I are together since a year and a half.I really love him,same about him.
After some months I met a guy called Nick.He is my Best Friend,but one day I realized that He loves me.We were flirting and one night we had sex... I started to love my Best Friend.Now actually I love them both,but I know that I MUST choose one of them.I'm really confused and I don't know what to do.
My boyfriend normally gets angry when someone says He loves me.
One night,when my Boyfriend and I were hugging,my Best Friend was there.My Best Friend got out and didn't talk to me like 2-3 hours.I think He was jealous of my Boyfriend...
Today I realized,that some of my 'friends' know that I had sex with Nick.I didn't know what to do and they don't really like me,so it's possible they tell my Boyfriend.I tried to lie,but they didn't believe me...
I told to Nick to don't tell anyone,until I find a way to tell my Boyfriend and He promised He won't tell.
The boy that knows that Nick and I had sex hates Nick.I started to think that maybe Nick told him... But I am afraid to ask him... and I don't know how.
I love my Boyfriend,but I'm falling for my Best Friend...
What shall I do?!
Please give me a tip,I'm so confused...

[ken007nielsen]

I know what to do, you cheated on your boyfriend - he doesent deserve that, so you leave him. This guy Nick knows what to expect from you, so I would go for him.

And the way I see it, you don't need help which one to choose, your looking for advice to cover up your own mess. You are showing absolutely no remorse what-so-ever, a person in love would.

[amicon]

It seems you thrive on drama.

Stop playing people like they are puppets-if you can't make your mind up-go single and find some self respect.

[Alty]

You don't need help choosing. Tell your boyfriend that you cheated, which proves your love for him, he'll dump you, then you can go have all the sex you want with Nick.

Seriously! Don't tell me you love your boyfriend. People in love don't cheat. You knew what you were doing, you could have stopped it, but you didn't. You had a choice, you made it, now be an adult and live with the consequences!

You made your bed, now lie in it! :(

[BK201]

Your boyfriend is going to break into pieces so bad, but hope he will cope up soon because I bet he will realize at a point that he does not deserve you. So you better tell him and put an end to this mess before he hears it from somebody else.

[sexy86]

Tell your boyfriend what happened and if he ends up breaking with you, then go with nick, he sure knows what his getting into and yeah if you love somebody you wouldn't be out cheating on him and you knew exactly what you were doing and the consequences. You already know what to do and make the choice for what is best for your boyfriend.

[talaniman]

Darn, so your boyfriend is going to be the last one to know his girlfriend is really a lying, cheater. Change that quick why don't you.

At least Nick knows you are a lying cheater, and he is okay with it as long as he gets the sex out of the deal.

What a mess you made because you cannot be honest, or loyal. If you were, you wouldn't be in this mess.

[Lyra123]

People make mistakes. This is a huge one. Tell him and take his reaction. That's the only way to clean this up.

[mj808]

You need to fess up before somebody else does. If you really love your boyfriend and he finds you worthy of a second chance you will drop Nick. Could you do that?

If he doesn't want you and can't trust you, you can always run to Nick. He'll gladly screw you, but remember this: If Nick was willing to chase a girl who was already in a relationship, he has no real problem with cheating. Karma is a real *****.

[antiyou]

Yes,I love my Boyfriend and I know it pretty good that I made a huge mistake and I can't take the time back.
I've seen my Boyfriend flirting with a girl called Lucie,because he really likes girls,but I didn't do/say anything to him,because I love him.
We also had great times together,but we too had problems.
I don't want to leave him...
Wouldn't it be good if I forgot about Nick and keep it in a secret?Last night he told me that he can't hide it and he'll stop,because he knows I suffer... He's an emo too,it's one of the reasons we understand each other.Maybe with the time that secret will disappear of my mind?I was also worry about my relationship with my Boyfriend when I saw him flirting,there were my friends who saw it too,because he lives in France and now I live in Ukraine... I can't know what he does all the day - I'm worry because I know he really loves girls.
I'm 16 and I'm just a kid...

[southamerica]

You can't justify your disloyal actions by saying your boyfriend flirts. What you should do when he does something that worries you is TALK to him.

Now that you've cheated, you need to TALK to your boyfriend. Tell him the truth, and accept his reaction.

You can't have your cake and eat it too. You need to be fair to your boyfriend.

[BK201]

16 is a young age and in my opinion, it is tooo young age to do whatever you are doing. Be honest and tell him, let us leave the rest up to him. May be he might forgive you, who knows. But do not hide. It will eventually kill you. Also, when he is committed to you, you don't have to let him flirt. That is not generosity or being modest. It is just childish. Stand up and ask him to stop it, if it hurts you. Love and relationship is not a tit for tat game but being honest, loyal and never letting your partner down.

[Alty]

Yes,I love my Boyfriend and I know it pretty good that I made a huge mistake and I can't take the time back.

It wasn't a mistake. A mistake is something you do without knowing the consequences. You had to know that having sex with someone else wasn't right. Therefore it's not a mistake.

I've seen my Boyfriend flirting with a girl called Lucie,because he really likes girls,but I didn't do/say anything to him,because I love him.

New flash. Flirting isn't cheating. I flirt. I'm a huge flirt. I've been with my husband since I was 19, over 21 years, and I've never cheated on him. I do however flirt. Flirting and cheating are two different things.

We also had great times together,but we too had problems.
I don't want to leave him...

You don't want to leave him but you had sex with Nick? This makes no sense.

Wouldn't it be good if I forgot about Nick and keep it in a secret?Last night he told me that he can't hide it and he'll stop,because he knows I suffer... He's an emo too,it's one of the reasons we understand each other.Maybe with the time that secret will disappear of my mind?

Who are you keeping the secret for? Are you keeping it to spare your boyfriend, or are you keeping it to spare yourself?

I was also worry about my relationship with my Boyfriend when I saw him flirting,there were my friends who saw it too,because he lives in France and now I live in Ukraine... I can't know what he does all the day - I'm worry because I know he really loves girls.

Again, flirting is just flirting. It has nothing to do with cheating. He hasn't cheated that you know of, but you're worried that he will? Guess what. The one that should worry in this relationship is him, because you've gone beyond flirting. You actually cheated. I'd stop worrying about his actions, and worry about your own.

I'm 16 and I'm just a kid...

A kid that has sex with, well, it seems anyone that interests you. You can't play the kid card when you're playing grownup games.

You're dating someone, and you're having sex with someone else. That's not what kids do.

If you're claiming that because you're 16, and in your words, a kid, that that means we should be lenient. No.

It means that you should realize that you are only a kid, and you should stop messing around with things you obviously aren't ready to handle. Like a relationship, or sex.

[talaniman]

16!! 16?? Isn't that kind of young to be a lying cheater??

[amicon]

You're in the Ukraine-he's in France?

Apart from the fact that you cheated on him,I don't see a future for this relationship-as you are 16!!

Take a break from boys and concentrate on you and your education.