[greenf150]

OK so I am 20 years old. I got a ex girlfriend who is pregnant with my child she is 5 months along and me and her been broking up since the 3 month period and I have a new girl friend who I been dating for about 2 months now. Well my ex keeps calling and calling and texting over and over she want stop!! My ex keeps trying to break us up and she is trying everything she can to. I have tried taking a restraining order out on her but the judge dropped it since she is pregnant and said we just need to get along well my ex is constently calling and calling me she has even started her drama with my new girlfriend and my girlfriend took a restraining order out on her but that got dropped because of my exs constent lies its starting to cause problems in our relationship. My ex has tooking a restraining order out on me and has even took a warrant out on me for trying to run her off the road. It is nothing but constent lies and she is texting my mom saying if I get back with her she will drop all the charges what should I do??

[redhed35]

Your going to be tied to your ex for the next 18 years or so, she's full of hormones, brokenhearted and wants you back, the poor girl is probably half out of her mind, especially since you moved on so quickly.

Have you tried talking to her? Are you helping out with medical expenses, does she know you are going to help financally with the baby, have you given her any reasurances that your going to be in the baby's life?

She probably has a lot of unanswered questions, your not getting back together, she will eventually get that message.

The calls are difficult to deal with, your current girlfriend can change her number to avoid calls, but 'baby mama drama' looks like its going to be around for a while before things settle down.

This is your problem, not your girlfriends, this is your baby and your baby's mother, YOU have to find away to deal.

Once the baby is born you can go back to court for visitation and organise maintenance.

If you want legal advice I suggest you post a question in the legal section of AMHD, advice in the legal section is restricted to legal advice only and is not open to opinion, or I can move your question to that section if you wish.

[greenf150]

I have tried talking to her plenty of times about the baby and she always go off topic and wants to talk about me and her not the baby. I have told her over and over I want to be there for the child not her. She keeps starting drama with my family sayiing this and that but the other day she asked me to come talk to her at my grandmothers which a lot of family lives around and I get there we start arguing because she keeps saying she is giving the baby up for adoptiom and that she is getting a abortion.

[talaniman]

That's what happens when you dump a pregnant female, they seldom let you have peace, or moving on easily. A big part of being there for an unborn child, IS being there for the mother, and I don't think you can separate that.

So its not realistic to think she will just leave you alone, as its way to late for an abortion for sure. Sorry guy as much as you want her to disappear, I doubt she does, but maybe talking to her mom can pave the way to some sort of agreement for now. The chances are slim but worth a try, but your real solution is to give her the support she needs without committing to anything. Maybe keeping quiet about personal feelings and keeping your new girl out of this, but whatever way you choose to deal with it is one helluva pickle, and there will be no good solutions you will like.

You made a bad situation worse by getting a new girl, before you resolved things with the old one, and for that you will have to pay even more consequences for your actions. She ain't going away anytime soon guy, so I hope the new girl understands.

She ain't crazy, you are if you thought that just walking away, and she letting you, was going to happen. Bite the bullet, since the law may not be helpful. Even if it did, you are still in deep do do, so shut off your phones, change your numbers, be ready to call a cop if she shows up, and try to disappear. That may work for a while.

[Enigma1999]

I see so many things wrong with this, I don't even know where to begin.

First of all, why on Earth would you even start up a new relationship so soon? I hope you're using protection with this one.

Why did you break it off with the last girlfriend?

This is a lot to handle for someone your age, or anyone for that matter.

You seem a little selfish to me, and now you are getting pay back. I'm not saying that she is right in all of her actions, however, she is young, pregnant, vulneralbe, and pi$$ed off that you broke up with her while being pregnant, with your child, and EVEN more pi$$ed off that you started a new relationship.

It almost seems as if it's past the point of no return. In other words, there is so mush hate, that I'm concerned that this can't be resolved.

It's time to grow up. You're going to be a Father now. Perhaps you should end it with this new girlfriend of only two months so that you can focus on the baby.

I think you should try and make it right with your ex, by supporting her, not just financially, but emotionally. She is going to need it. She's going through a lot, and I think you should have waited to break it off with her until after the baby was born.

You two DON'T have to be together, but you do for that baby! You owe it to that baby!

Also, so you think it's fair for this new girlfriend to be stuck in this mess?

I don't.

... just saying