[JustinRED]

My girlfriend left her exboyfriend of 2 years and started a relationship with me. After 2 years of us being together she decides to move away and go to school on the other side of the country. After a month of not seeing me she proposes the idea of seeing other people. I don't want to. She goes on to explain why it's "okay' because she still wants to end up with me. I'm 24 and she's 21.

She said we are both young and have a lot to experience, also that we're two seperate people who cannot control each other. I keep telling her no, and that if she wanted to see someone else we would have to break up. According to her I'm being unfair, because if I "truly loved her' I would accept her back no matter what and that it's okay because we're far apart.

After a while of listening to her trying to convince me, I told her that we need to talk a lot less because the conversation is hurting my head. Later that night I sent her a text message telling her that I believe it would be best if we have less contact and it would make it easier for us to go our separate ways in the 5 months she'll be gone because I can't trust her.

From the moment she woke up this morning she has been texting and calling me, and Ive been ignoring her because I can't take it anymore. Every other message is in anger from her, and all the others are sweet.. now she's telling me that she never wanted to see other people-but how can I trust her now? It's been about 13 hours.. 30 missed phone calls later, and over 50 text messages and I still have not and do not want to talk to her. I already know she's going to say that she was speaking hypothetically, which seems to be her excuse for everything that might hurt my feelings.. She likes to call me jealous and narrow minded after presenting this idea and hearing me disagree.. Talking to her, leaves me dizzy because she talks in circles.. over and over.. She even went as far as to text my 12 year old sister and tell her how much she feels like they are sisters to get to me. My sister did not buy it of course and came to me asking what was going on.

I feel like I've allowed a crazy person to live with me and come into my home.. and I feel like love can never fix what is wrong with her. I honestly.. believe.. no, I know she did the same thing to her ex. I've tried talking this out but she just can't ever seem to apologize or admit she is wrong. Only when I ignore her or am inconsiderate do I get any kind of loving response from her..

We've had a lot of fights in the past over her ex because she still wanted to be his friend and mentioned getting back together with him every so often.. which I put up with for a while. Right before she left, she deleted all pictures of him and put up many many more pictures of us.. I thought it was the end of our fighting, but it only became worse..

I want to fix things but then again I'm sick of the headaches I'm getting and I feel drained and I don't think it's worth it anymore..

[Wondergirl]

I admire you -- and I agree with you. After her declaration that she wanted to experience life by taking a break from you, emotionally as well as physically while being away at school, she lost your trust.

She has a history of doing this and confusing everyone (and breaking trust). Don't answer her texts and calls. Continue No Contact. And stay in touch with us here to keep you strong.

[liongal]

Keep reading what you have written in the thread and continue to work on getting over this girl. For if you remain in this relationship, she will 'mess up' your head.

I also think you have taken the right stance with this situation. Take as much time as you need to get over this girl and always trust your instincts! The writing is always on the wall, well done for not overlooking the signs.

God Bless.

[talaniman]

Finally, a guy who gets it, and knows what to do for himself. Well done as you have gotten rid of your headaches, and heart aches very decisively, with no BS, and drama, and FIXED your problems.

BRAVO!!