[gatox360]

Hi everyone, well, my situation is very complicates so lets try to make it short, we started a relationship 2 and a half years ago, when I met her the first time she had a boyfriend, which by accident one day at her family's house she called him by MY name, they broke up and like 2 months later or so we started dating, I didn't like her outsdie appeal but with time I did. By that time she was 15 and I was 19, her mother liked me and she approved our relationship, her birthday is the day before mine.

here's where everything started to crack, when she started her senior year she joined this group at her high school which they sing acapelas, we use to see each other fridays and saturdays since I had to work and she had to see her grandmother on sundays. Everything changed since then, since November it was only saturdays and probably for 10 hours that was all. Our sex cut down from 4 or 6 times a month to merely 2 or even 1 at times.

about 3 weeks ago, everything was fine, we txted each other and call us by our little nicknames, and one day I went into Facebook and I noticed she had changed her profile picture ( which we had the same ) to one of herself only, when I asked she said it was a mistake and she was going to change hers.. I waited 10 minutes and she didn't, so I wanted to change mine to see her reaction, when I did she said " are you serious, only because i did you changed yours, youre an idiot.." all right, she kept saying why I changed my picture, only because she did, and I gave up and put the old picture in display, she didn't do the same.. she was somehow under heavy stress since she had tried to get in the TV show X-Factor ( the singing show that simmon cowell hosts ) they made it to the state's audition which will be aired and he was there, she had picked a song in which they stopped them and told them " it was horrific " so they got eliminated, half of the 10 people group blamed her and didn't wanted to talk to her, before the show her mother had told her that her aunt has breast cancer, I was the only one cheering her up after everything happened, but she decided to treat me like dog crap and kiss her friends *** to get them back. I tried to help her out get of that depressive state she was in but she got upset and didn't wanted to talk to me.
like a week later she said she was depressed and she felt like I was suffocating her with my questions and my actions. One day some guy msgd her on Facebook trying to get in her pants, I was looking at it since she decided to exchange fb passwords so when I saw that I asked her to delete him out of her Facebook, she told him that she couldn't picture herself single and she was happy with who she was with. But I still told her to please do it for me since one time something like that happened with me and she asked me to please stop talking to her and I did.

she now says that I suffocate her because I try to protect her a lot, she has told her mother that I don't let her talk to ANYBODY, I told my side of the story to her mother and she replied " wow i did not know that, she never told me that ". She says she never goes out to friends parties because I don't want her to go, when I've always been the one telling her, why don't you go to your friends house, or they come this way ( since her friends live in another county )..
she told me: " I DONT WANT TO SPEND MY LAST SUMMER WITH YOU. I WANT SO SPEND IT WITH MY FIRNEDS ALSO, "", when i explained i dont want the whole cake for myself only a slice, she said, ok but we wont be together every friday and saturday. that hurt me alot, since i had quit my job to be with her the last summer before she goes upstate for college. it was hard for me not to ask WHY the sudden break up so i tried to get answers for 2 days after the break up, one night in we were in webcam and she was strong with her decision, we talked and before she went to bed, she changed her cloths right in front of me, i thought it was weird since she didnt wanted to be with me why would she be getting naked on the cam while i was watching, not just that but when i asked about sex she had said, " yes we're going to do it "" I decided to give her time since she had said before she went to bed I wasn't giving her time, 3 days later my friend's wife posted on my Facebook that they were on their way to pick me up to have fun.. later on that night she was on fb chat and asked me, what was I doing? So I simply said nothing how about you? She answered and said OK goodnight, 2 hours later she msgd me again, can't SLEEP so I wanted to respect her time but she kept talking, the next 2 days we talked about sex and the relationship. July 4 she was invited to a getty and told me, now I can go without having you holding my back you know.. it hurt me but if I wanted her back I had to let lose in things and don't complain, July 5 was her birthday and I posted on her fb happt birtday, she put like in all of them BUT mine, I called her and she didn't pick up, she told me to stop calling her. That day she went to her driver's license since she turned 18, the next day was my birthday and she only texted me on my phone. Happy birthday and nothing else. When I asked her why didn't she called me she said, sorry for not calling you.. that's very heartbreaker to see that the person you love the most wasn't there nor call me. All my friends hate her and so does my family for how of a ***** she turned out to be now. That night I was on her Facebook looking for a contact and she found out I was in there, she *****ed me out and called me ton of things like douchebag idiot ***** ******* etc etc.. I never disrespect her neither verbally nor physically. She changed her password right away and told me she was not coming back to the relationship. July 7 I told her to come get a box with everything she has given me, ( letters, the first box of chocolate, etc ) and she said why are you giving me that box and told her I don't want to torture myself with pictures and her stuff anymore. Then I asked again to seal the deal, is it final that u won't get back? Or the feelings are there but they need some air? She replied she wants to be alone, single for now and she'll think about it, it was a plan that she and her mother had planned and I found out but I don't want to tell her that. I really do love that girl, she's more than I ever asked for, she was my first girlfriend and I gave it all to her, my heart, feelings, home, and something I can give only once, my virginity. All of her ex's treated her like crap, physically abused, raped, and mentally abused also, I am the first one who has cared for her and supported her, her brother and I are the only ones who knows about that sexual incident she had.

as for now she wants time and live her summer. It really hurts me, I know some other guy would have dumped her *** to the curve, but I seriuously love her, but if she'd love the relationship, why is she doing this to me? I only have 3 friends and her, I am that shy.

sorry for such long post, but I had to give key details, hope you can help me :)

[kcomissiong]

So you are what, 22, 23 years old now. And she is how old. You are smothering her. She has the interest that High School girls have... friends, parties, and enjoying their summers. She however, is not interested in settling down and being serious. On top of that, if you had sex with her when she was 15, it is possible that you could be prosecuted for statutory rape. (Depends on your location). Leave her alone. Let her enjoy her life, and you find someone who is at the same level of development and maturity as you. You also need to work on yourself, and figure out why you were attracted to a fifteen year old, because flat out-that is disturbing. What could you have in common with a tenth grader?

[talaniman]

She grew up and changed like any teen ager. Happens all the time. I would leave her alone, and let this go because she doesn't really want any part of you any more, so this is a good time for you to grow up and explore your own world.

Sorry for your loss, don't make it worse by not letting it go.

[gatox360]

I was 19 at that time and she was 15... I never got attracted by looks, I never thought I was going to fall in love with her, she looked a lot more than 15, and at this time she looks like 21.. her ways of being nice and sweet to me were the ones that made me fall in love. I wasn't the one to ask her out, in fact she asked me out, she grabbed my hand the first time, she got on top of me for a kiss even she insisted in sex. Her mother knew about it and always told her to use protection, it wasn't rape, her mothers is a lawyer, and if it was rape I wouldn't be here typing my friend, thanks for your time.

[gatox360]

Thanks for your comment, its hard to let go when they still say I love you and tell you they miss you, I'm trying my best to get over it and as for now I am doing good. I just didn't wanted things to end like this, I never expected her to settle down seriously and knew she was still growing up and is. Maybe this is a life lesson she's about to get.. "" we ignore the one who adores us, and we adore the one who ignore us "", is life, and she will learn from that mistake. Too bad it will be late when she comes back and realizes how much love I had to her, thanks!