[vickydt]

Hey I'm new to this but I really need help... I'm called vicky and I'm 17 years old... I am bisexual... I have a problem... I have a best mate of 3 years and she's 17... she's the most beautiful girl I've ever laid eyes on... well like I said she's my best mate... I have feelings for her, very strong feelings but I can't tell her... why? She has a boyfriend who is my best guy mate... they proper in love... and when I see them together everyday I get reallllyyyyyy jealous... alls I want to do is just kiss her with all the passion I have... oh she's bisexual too... she doesn't know my feelings... I dno whether to tell her or not... we have kissed before for a dare or just because we were high or drunk... I dno if she knows my feelings or just does it because am bisexual and she is but we flirt with each other all the time... she's moving away tomorrow and the news just tore me apart... I can't tell her... I want to but I dno whether I should... I really could use some help... anybody?

[Fr_Chuck]

Being bi is not an excuse for childish or improper behavior.

Same advice is you were straight, bi or gay. If the other person has a boyfriend or girlfriend then they are off limits until they break up.

And the next issue, is that even if they break up, if you did get with her, her current boyfriend / and your close mate, may not understand either.

This is one of those, where you will lose one or both friends no matter what happens.

[vickydt]

She kisses me and flirts with me I onnly flirt with her if she flirts with me :/ I don't get it

[talaniman]

Stop flirty with your friend. Maybe that's her way of fun, but it harms you because you want more. Wish her good luck on her move and keep your feelings to yourself for now.

She is off limits romantically, and you better stop taking her flirty seriously. You may be friends, all of you, so start respecting the boundaries of good behavior. Being drunk, or high, or carried away with your feelings is no excuse for bad behavior, and cheating is bad behavior, and betraying both of your best friends.

[vickydt]

I can't help it though I dno how long I can resist

[Wondergirl]

i can't help it though i dno how long i can resist

Horse feathers! Of course you can resist her, if you choose to do so. You don't want to, so you don't.

Leave her alone with the flirty stuff. Act your age, not like a silly little girl.

[vickydt]

When I see her eyes they just draw me in and they are blue and I cnt resist perfect blue eyes

[talaniman]

You better resist, it could save a lot of misery and pain to you. If you have no control, then you will be controlled

[vickydt]

If I have no control how will I be controlled?

[Wondergirl]

if i have no control how will i be controlled?

If you have no control, that means you have given away your power. Anyone will be able to control you then.

[vickydt]

Oh right... well if its her that wants to control me then id let her

[Wondergirl]

ANYONE will be able to mess with your emotions, and you will allow it because you will be weak.

[vickydt]

I honestly can't control my feelings for her... she's on my mind 24/7 and she makes me weak

[Wondergirl]

i honestly can't control my feelings for her.

Of course, you can control it. Think about white bears instead.

[Ultimate37fruit]

You know maybe you should tell her about how you really feel about that girl because if you don't then she's gone and out of your sight!!

[talaniman]

After reading your responses, maybe you should take your chances and put yourself at her mercy. At least you will finally be able to get it out of your system, and I hope its worth it to you.

[vickydt]

Fine I won't tell her but it will be a struggle