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    Jun 12, 2011, 12:49 AM
    My girlfriend was raped
    First of all, thank you all for your time!
    I'm 23 and my girlfriend is 21. We've been together for 2.5 years and we're having a blast.
    Unfortunately, every now and then, I feel disturbed of the fact that she was raped when she was 18 (we didn't know each other back then), when she was still a VIRGIN. I've learned to live with that, thought. She hasn't, however. She still cries every time she remembers it. She hasn't been to counseling or doctor checking, stupidly.
    The thing is, not 'till last night, she seemed to need to talk about it again. I asked her how the rape happened, in details, since she has only told me an overview. It appears that she actually liked the guy, back then. Now, I'm not so sure I should pity her.
    Here are the details of the rape: she got from a party with her cousins and went to their home after it ended. The guy who raped her was with them all the time, from the party to delivering them to their home. After her cousins went upstairs, she stood outside with the guy a little longer, while her cousins went to bed. Thing is, when she decided to go back upstairs, the door was locked and nobody answered. The guy and my girlfriend kissed and he offered her to sleep at his house, but not together (no sex). Stupidly, she said yes. When they got to his house, they kissed. Then, he started touching her, but she said no, because she was still a virgin. Seems that turned him on, so he raped her.
    I described all above because, nowadays, her and I going out, some guys want to get in her pants, and, even thought she knows it, and I've told her to stay away, she still talks
    To them, even knowing that I'm ready to kick their butts. When I tell her to stop talking to them, she does, but starts talking again with them after a few months. She obviously tells them that she is with me and that she is faithful to me, but this is all pissing me off right now because I'm starting to think that she is not a responsible girlfriend.
    Even after all this, I still love her... a lot! She also says she loves me and that she can't live without me.
    Please, help...
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    Jun 12, 2011, 03:48 AM

    A woman of l8 if mature and responsible, and yes, still a virgin, would not actually believe she is going to a guy's house 'just to sleep'. Why did she never report the rape, because maybe there wasn't actually a 'rape'. I don't know, something wrong with her story.

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