[shilpibhasin]

We both love to each other but his family is not ready,specialy his mother.our family has meet with each other that time his parents was agree but next day they said they are not agree,they said we don want that you marry with her because they don't have good standard and so many things(every time reason get change and become something else) .they convince him a lot to do marry with the girl of there choice.they said they will never accept me because they don't want yet they did not meet me even they don't want.on other hand my family said if both of you are ready then we don't have any problem but his family should be ready to accept you.*** suggest and help.this time she gave a very bad excuse,said"she went to a baba and he said if gaurav marry with me then some will die from his family(she went to baba just two days bach as she say)"

[Alty]

What sort of help do you want?

Who you marry, and who he marries, is up to the two of you. It sounds like he wishes to follow what his family suggests. If that's the case then you really don't have a choice but to move on and find someone else.

[Cat1864]

If his mother is the only person against the marriage, is there someone she respects and would listen to who would be open to talking to her on your behalf?

I am going to be honest that most of my understanding of the problems facing you is from reading other posts similar to yours. In many of those posts, marriage did not turn out the way the couple originally planned-if they made plans. If the parents gave in, it was only temporary and they made the wife's life very difficult after the marriage. The husband who seemed very 'modern' in his thinking before marriage turned around and became extremely 'traditional' afterward. In some cases the wife found that trying to fit into her husband's caste was very difficult.

So part of my advice is to sit down with your love and have an in depth discussion of what both of you expect marriage will be like-the good and the bad. Be certain that you are not so caught up in trying to convince others that you ignore the communications and compromises that will need to be made IF you do marry. It is better to find out now that you have very different beliefs than after you are married.

Good luck.

[jackeve]

Your love seems to have taken sides with his parents according to your post. May be before I give you any advice I would to let you know that 95 percent of such marriages turn out to be hell for the woman.the man may be on your side now but it will come a time when he sides with his family and you will be left alone. Secondly the family members will always work hard to your downfall.You say you love each other, are you sure? What is the man saying about his relatives? I would advice you to be patient a little and watch what happens if you don't marry him. When destiny calls you, will be with love some day.
Wish you the best.