[Guy10101]

I AM SO CONFUSED RIGHT NOW. I am in love with this girl, and she loves me. We have been dating for 6 months and love each other so much we can't to spend the rest of our lives together. The problem is she won't be 18 for another year. Her parents don't like me and wish I would hit the road. As soon as she turns 18 we are eloping because we need to be together and can't wait any longer. But we can't wait another year.

We are both Christians and both go to the same church and we have fallen sexually. We have been sleeping together since June. We can't wait any longer and if we had it our way we would already be married. Every time we are together it feels right because we love each other, but the bible says we need to wait until we are married. I don't know what to do. I want to obey God but I love my this women so much. If I stopped now I think I would go crazy and just come back in a matter of days. We have tried to stop, but we can't because we end up together again and we sleep together again. I don't know what is right anymore?

Is there anyway we can be married in a biblical sense but not a legal sense yet? I don't want to disobey God anymore, but I can't stop loving her. How can I make her my wife now so I stop sinning? Since all love is from God is my love for her the will of God? I am confused and don't know what to do anymore. When we come together everything feels so right and I never have any regret. But I know what the Bible says. What should I do?

[miss_icanhelp]

My husband and I are Christians and attending in the same church. We met at church and we started dating. We have had the same problem as yours in the sexual part. I am 20and he is 21 at that time.Whenever we see each other, we can't hep it. Everything seems to be so right, but after it has happened we both feel the guilt. When I can't help committing that sin anymore, I talked to him about it. We both agreed that we do the right thing and get married if we can't help ourselves. If we choose not to get married, then we should stop seeing each other to avoid falling into sin. We chose to get married, with the fact that we love each other above sex. We don't want sex to be the ultimate reason to get married. Marriage is about LOVE for the person and not love for sex. You should first ask yourself and convince yourself and your partner that LOVE is the ultimate reason. What I have learned from what happened to us was that GOD designed sex for married couples only. It doesn't follow that you have sex outside marriage because you love each other. Some people do have sex without love and some mistake having sex for love. If what you feel for her is true and vice versa, then you should decide to get married. But for now since you are not married yet, what I can advice is this: 1. don't be alone with her in the same room. Always stay where people can see you. 2. Don't go on dates alone. Have another couple go with you like a double date 3. Talk to her parents with her and tell them you love her. Let both of your parents know what is happening between you two and tell them you want to get married to make things right before GOD AND MEN. 4. Above all these, PRAY lest ye fall into temptation. It is not a sin to be tempted. Because God himself was tempted by Satan. Sin comes in when you fall for the trap. Just have this in mind... Satan comes to steal, kill and destroy. Don't fall for his evil plan. If you two are alone, instead of focusing on each other, talk about God and have a Bible sharing, and end the session with prayer. I hope what I said would help you both. God bless...

[LearningAsIGo]

It seems like you understand the Bible and feel sure in what you believe, but you're looking for a way around it in order to make yourself happy. If I have the wrong impression, please correct me.

My main concern here is that you are having sex with a minor (in most states 18 is consent) and this could get you in serious trouble no matter what your faith or relationship status. Miss has a good idea... when you're together, have a group date and/or share beliefs, etc. to keep your mind off it. You love her so you must respect her and yourself and your faith. True, deep, and binding love is often focused around faith, but never around sex.

Take a deep breath and a cold shower!

[BMI]

I like the take a shower and take a deep breath. I have seen a lot of younger people post stories about how madly they are in love with someone, strikes me as perhaps falling in love for the first time and running away with it (in this case literally). I admire your strong belief system but as the previous post already mentioned, it seems as if you are trying to find a biblical loophole that would make you feel justified in what you are planning. The comment about God's will especially caught me, in that it is SO easy to justify actions when we really want something, the book Paradise Lost is a great example of how one can make EVERYTHING they do appear righteous, it is a dangerous thing. I hate to play spoiler but I must say what I think. I'm not saying you are not in love, but at such a young age it strikes me as being perhaps a first love not a fairytale romance where you get married and live out your years embracing each other on a farm somewhere (I have no idea why I said farm:)?? I'm not saying it can't happen, but step back and view it from outside yourself, surely you have heard of the honeymoon phase right? Last thing, please be careful when people overuse the phrase "listen to your heart" it is very misleading when applied to something you really want.