[Gingerella9910]

So I've been with this awesome guy for the better part of a year and I don't think he trusts me. If we lay down together on the couch, usually both the phones get put on the end table so no butt dialing happens. Normal? Yes. But if his lights up from a message and I'm closer, sure I'll get it for him but only to have it practically snatched away.
I've confronted him about it more than once and he just says that he doesn't like someone going through his stuff. When I have no interest in doing that! He thinks I'm nosy like his last girlfriend but my only concern is that he's hiding something from me. Even then I wouldn't search his phone.
He exceeds in every other aspect of being a boyfriend. And he plays with my phone all the time, I have nothing too hide so I don't care. Any suggestions? Info? Advice? Anything would be helpful!

[amicon]

It seems you don't trust him-''my only concern is that he's hiding something from me''-whereas he,like a lot of people probably just wants to be in charge of his own phone.

If everything else is working out well between the two of you, I'd say let this go.

[Wondergirl]

And he plays with my phone all the time

What does that mean? Doesn't he trust you? Both of you must respect each other's privacy. It goes both ways.

[talaniman]

If he doesn't want you messing with his stuff, then don't. It may be just his quirk that throws you off, and makes you suspicious. Just me, I would wander why he feels free to mess with your stuff, but doesn't feel the same about his.

That's the conversation to have, and adjust thinking, and actions accordingly.

[vanheart]

Geez.
What did we do before texts?

Sounds childish. You both are acting that way.

You can't base a relationship on jealousy.

Sounds like both of you are more interested in your phones than each other.

[DoulaLC]

Why does he need to play with your phone? Is he going through your messages or texts? As was said, respect and trust has to go both ways.

I guess it would make a difference whether he has always been this way or is it recent. As was said, he may just not like the idea of anyone touching his stuff... it may be a result of issues he had with his last girlfriend.

If your getting his phone for him was not an issue before, and only recently he snatches it away when you go to get it for him, then I would probably wonder what was up as well.

If you don't have any reason not to trust him, and if he has always been this way, then just let him get his own phone from now on.

[talaniman]

What happened to talking and getting facts and then making a judgment call??

[Gingerella9910]

I don't know if I should reply in this little box or not but thanks for the advice, we talked about it and we both put technology aside when with each other. Couldn't be happier:)

[I wish]

As long as you solved the trust issues.