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    notplayinggames Posts: 8, Reputation: 1
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    May 2, 2011, 06:52 PM
    Should I stop making an effort?
    Hi,
    Well I've know this girl for about 2 years now... We would always text now and then. About 6 months ago we decided to make plans and hang out. When the day came she totally ditched me. No phone call... nothing! About 2 months after that she called me and I told her that was really rude what she did. She agreed and said she was sorry. So we made plans again to go fishing. It was a beautiful 85 degree day and she said "It's too hot to go fishing"
    I said well what do you want to do... She never replied. Recently she text me again... and this was the last chance I was going to give her. We ended up doing Dinner... which she pushed back the time 3 hours which made us late. We had a nice time... She text me a couple days after that and said how much fun she had and she can't wait to see me. We made plans for tomorrow and I told her to make sure cause I rearranged my schedule so I could see her and drove 2 and a half hours back from business to see her... She texts me tonight saying she's not sure if she can hang out tomorrow cause she has a lot of stuff to do... What should I do? Should I just stop making an effort and just move on?
    Thanks
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    May 2, 2011, 09:01 PM
    Obviously.. You are getting used by her.. Whenever she feels that she misses u,She will come and you will be available for her.. You are trying from your side but she don't want it honestly.. She don't have any respect for the relationship she had with u.. Leave her and if she really wanted to come then go for it.. U have your own value.. One person can not make effort in any relationship.. Lot of person will come in your life who will respest u and your feelings.. Wait for the right person and if u want to go back with her the reason should be solid.. Trust,respect and honesty are the pillar of any relationship..
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    May 3, 2011, 01:38 AM

    Yes,stop making any effort;she's stringing you along.

    Move on and find somebody else to date;there are plenty more fish in the sea.
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    May 3, 2011, 04:56 AM

    You seem to be an option when she has nothing else to do.

    You need better options than her, but don't be mad at her, since its you who keep going back for more, and getting nothing for your efforts.

    Cross her off the list. You have wasted enough time, and frustrated yourself enough.

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ow-548272.html

    Same girl??
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    May 3, 2011, 07:44 AM
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    Thanks Talaniman, and NOOO different girl. I dropped the last one quick!
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    May 3, 2011, 07:44 AM
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    Thanks I agree!
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    May 3, 2011, 07:45 AM
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    Thanks! I agree with this to!
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    May 4, 2011, 08:59 AM
    So she has played you over and over again and you are still willing to stick around and see if she is worth it or not? Come one man, leave her alone and find someone who is actually going to pay the least amount of attention to you... why conform with a girl that treats you in such a mediocre way?

    Good Luck,
    Javi
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